what to do in this situation?
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Anonymous
(Querist) 08 February 2010
This query is : Resolved
Hello sir/mam
i am rekha w/o sh randhir l. we married 11 years back and live together. i am working in company and he is not working and just some times he went to his father shop. We have two daughters and both are studying in school. Every month for fees and their expenses issues we fight everyday. my in laws don't like me from first day of marriage i complaint to my mother and brothers for this issue they told to everyone in relative and even to our neighbors that i m unlucky when we married they lost all things and so on, but i don't know if they earn where they put all money even we don't have a good home. but they refuse always for sake for their reputation and society. i always cry in front of my parents and i gave some money to my husband to start some work but my father in law spend all money in lottery. two times my husband try to kill me for these issues ad beat almost everyday. i am getting pain in my vagina from eight years after first baby. we went to doctor she start my medicines and told its critical problem you must take rest and do surgery. but due to my home situation and lack of money my husband refuse and told me you will not die. from where i bring money. i don't have so i cry nothing else. now i am earning and we are running our home. now after all this i took some money from my account and operate my self. doctors remove my uterus because in future may be its cancer as doctor told us. in hospital and even at home after that my in laws Torture me for boy. they told me now i m nothing .even my brother in law (husband of my nanad) that you are nothing not a man or women. and he also try to make relations with me and told me that if you are with me i will keep you like flowers. i was afraid when i was at home alone. he always came that time when i was alone. then i save my salary and we got opportunities to go abroad and work their. i thought we will be happy when he will work there. i talked to my husband and he is agree. after that we went to Georgia and got residency and he got job in office. once in night he want to make relations with me i told him please wait for some time doctor told us for precautions. he force me and kick on my surgery part on stitches. i got too much pain and cry for whole night. next day i wen to doctor and she said why he beat you. may be you will die if you will do like this. but she start my treatment and after one month i was OK and in between again he force me when i refuse him he push my neck and told me i will kill you. there was one our roommate who save me and push him away. then they thought he is doing all this in dreams but he told them i know what i m doing then he told in front of all that she is bad luck she finish my generations she is nothing for me now. even she is not doing sex with me and so on. i feel very shame and cry very much. i explain all this to my mother and decide for divorce. she told me OK you come we will help you. then i decide to come back and he also told i will also go back. we came back to India and my brother receive us on airport. we reach at home and my mother is also there. i went with her to my parents home and refuse to go back and ask i don't want to waste my life and he already told to all that he will kill me i am nothing now after surgery. then he called to my brother and his friends and blame on me that i am characterless and so on. he also told them that he will put posters on our village then his relatives comes to our home and my brothers forcefully send me back for society and their respect. then i came back but very much afraid every night. even i don't know next morning i will see or not. then all the time they Torture me for boy related problems and said that you can only give girls nothing else. and now we don't have any hope from you. some times he use some magic book to Torture me . i am afraid now and i want to live alone with my child's. i can earn for my child's. please help me to get divorce and suggest me what to do.if I will move from home without saying anything and file case against him and I know they will lodge complaint against me that I ran away.so please suggest me what to do and save my life. if no body help me i have to take some serious step. i will loose my life because i cant live like this. i hope you will help me and tell me how to solve my problem. i think i will ran away from home and file a case against him for divorce. because i cant do anything here. they will kill me if they knew i am going to file case against them.
please help me and suggest me what to do?
waiting for your reply.
Thanks
Rekha
A V Vishal
(Expert) 08 February 2010
REKHAJI
FROM THE GIST OF THE QUERY, IT IS A CLEAR CASE OF DOMESTIC VOILENCE, I SUGGEST YOU FILE A COMPLAINT AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND AND IN-LAWS UNDER THE D V ACT WITH THE LOCAL WOMEN PROTECTION CELL AT THE PLACE OF YOUR RESIDENCE AND YOU CAN GET GOOD RELIEF BY WAY OF PROTECTION UNDER LAW.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 08 February 2010
but nobody is with me if i will go abroad and file complaint before going. i know they will file complaint in police then what i can do? my parents also not helping due to as usual of their reputation and society. so if iwent to abroad and file case against them and if they will go to police . police will help me or him.please suggest i am very much confused
R.R. KRISHNAA
(Expert) 08 February 2010
I suggest you to better settle the issue once and for all with your husband by entering into any seperation agreement or filing divorce before court. Taking up criminal proceedings will not give you peace. As you have to work in abroad, it is better to settle the issue peacefully eill be better if you and your husband agree for mutual consent. Negotiate the issue of settlement with the help of any friend of your family with your husband's family.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 08 February 2010
You shall be provided with protection officer of the police. You can also make complaint to her as well in the court under section 12 of domestic violence act. You have not to worry. You shall even be provided free of cost advocate and all litigation expenses. You have to create inner confidence and nothing more.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 08 February 2010
but they are not agree for divorce and i feel everytime like i will see next morning or not .so tell me procedure and how to proceed .if i will file compliant against them and i will go abroad. is it crime or i can go without any issues.i mean without telling them.
A V Vishal
(Expert) 09 February 2010
FILING COMPLAINT AND LEAVING IT UNATTENDED WILL NOT SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM, FILE FOR A CONTESTED DIVORCE IF THEY ARE NOT AGREEABLE TO MUTUAL CONSENT BUT EVEN FOR THAT YOU NEED TO ATTEND THE COURT
Jayashree Hariharan
(Expert) 09 February 2010
First you file a police complaint with the women;s commission. They will take care. Keep all the evidences properly with you before you take any action, so that you can prove everything. Be confident, madam. If you go away after filing complaint, no use. your husband will be very happy, that you are not serious in taking any action against them. Take the support of your friends. Leave your parents alone. If your brother is ready, take his support also.
