Abusive wife, inlaws torturing me to my limits;need help!

Dear Mr.Rakesh,

Regret that you too, like millions others, have been made to live under perpetual fear of 498a at the hands of your unscruplous wife and her parents. 

On the legal side of things - this is what you can do :-

1) Try and conserve as much evidence as you can to show her tortorous conduct. 

2) Hire a good lawyer - Intimate the authorities of your apprehensions. 

3) Attack is the best offence - on the basis if you want to live with her or not - file a divorce or an RCR as the case may be. 

Feel free to seek any clarifications.

Best of Luck !

Bharat

Advocate (Delhi)

Convenor : Lawyers for Social Justice

Tel : 9810553252 (only 6 to 9 PM) 

Thanks a lot Mr.Bharat for your inputs.

My question:

1. Can the recordings of my wife and inlaws (where I am not present) talking abusive language and conspiring against my family be cited as a good evidence to get a divorce ?

thanks

Siva

ASK IN EXPERT SITE, AS  SSCUSSED WITH ME TO GET WIDE OPINIONS OF MANY EXPERS. T

Hi ,

First of all i would like to ask you , was it a love marriage or arrange marriage ?  Werent you aware of the fact that she was short tempered before marriage .  and what was the reason of her having grievance . didnt you give her time or she just said things out of the blue . When you say that your wife works in mnc and draws decent salary she must not be mad to speak just out of the blue that you dont give her time . And no oman in her right senses would sit n complain . she must be feeling so , that is the reason she complained .  And if you do do cooking at home , that is certainly not a big deal . in a house , the burden to do hhouse work does not go on the woman . And if you say that she messses the house , who cleans the house . when you have taken pictures of scratches , y din u take pictures of her messing the house . And what recording you talking of . where you are not there . 

did you arrange for a game plan that they are abusing you and how are you saying that you are going to get another recording . what planning you doing . Remember just one sided recording has no value . Situations before and after are taken into consideration . And yes , no husband will take a wife beating him . i dont believe you . and the way you say your wife seem to work in a respectable place . Before putting allegations please revise your knowledge . No women loves to break her house . Specially with the type of husband like you claim who cooks food and even take her beating. dont fool people aroud.

Hi Salma

Thanks for your reply, I appreciate your point of view. However, my purpose of posting this in the forum was not to garner sympathy , neither to prove me right or my wife to be wrong.

The problem I am facing is real and imminent. I am here to seek professional help from experts, hence I moved this discussion to the Experts area on this forum. Anyways the right and wrong will be decided on a verdict in a court some day, certainly not on a forum like this.

thanks

@salma, are you a feminazi or what ? Women have become home wreckers after 498a/DV etc, so stop ur infatuation

Lakhs of husbands are being abused untolerably but they are having a tough time to come out become of society pressures.

@rakesh

-Not only recording make sure you start collecting copies of your wife's education certificates, salary slips, make a dummy address of your friend as ur address(backup plan) and create photo-id's etc. Incase ur paying anthing to ur wife, give her through checks etc.  Always try to gather as much evidence as possible with receipts etc etc. You need to start thinking really hard as Indian society is totally against men and men have to prove everything.

Women have become demons of 21st century

Thanks a lot Kumar. Could you please explain what we can achieve by having the dummy address ? Also, what do you mean by creating photo ids ? Do you mean photo ids with fake address ?

Where can I use that ?

thanks

Rakesh

Assumption is that your living with your parents.

You need 2nd address or else your parents will be pulled into the criminal cases by the wife. The 2nd will serve to separate you and your parents. Photo Id means ration card, pan card/voter card at the new address as u will have to prove that ur staying at the 2nd address incase necessary.

If you think you so damn correct y u doing publicity and wating your time , go directly to the court . god is with the right , then no matter whatever sort of expert advise u take .

such recordings does not help since there must be your response also.

What , husband being abused, I am a real victim of  domestic violence and full cruelty metted out by my husband in addition of dowry taken by him which he does not want to returrn . and cruelty has gone upto that level that i have just returned from hospital where i had admitted our 1.5 year old son as he was showing no movement . Inspite of informing since 8 days about our son being unwell , my husband did not reply back  .In these 8 days i called him nearly 500 times and messaged him more than 100 stating about our son s health that he is unwell . But no reply . i needed help from him to get prescripttion from our sons doctor in Dubai as i was in India , still no reply . Finally before admitting our son i messaged , still no response . Then my brother had to email him one photo in hospital of our son , still no reply . the reply that i received was that my mother in law telling my dad , that ask your daughter not to call or message my son , if you people have any work , speak to me , as i have been given authority by my husband to decide for my and my husbands son . But still father has no reply .Who is the one who suffered . Me or as per you poor men . And you know what , recordings , my husband is having of our fights . although day to day fights but he feels he is a bichara. tell is he a bichara after ill treating me , ignoring me , taking money from me , or am i a bichari . And , despite these being the true state of affairs he has filed for restitution of conjugnal rights 3 months back . I have told my husband that i will file DV and 498(A) . not one but many times . But i have still not filed for it . Because i love him . i know i can file for DV , and 498A , but preassumed mentality of people that women who do such things are risky to live with . Tell me what should i do  ..........   If i do this then experts like you say , women are taking advantage . But no women unless she is in some other relation would like to be a home breaker .

Salma Ji, sorry to hear ur life story and ur one in a million coz u have not filed any cases against ur husband as u said u love ur husband. How many women behave like you not my words just take the statistical figures from the courts how many women are just playing with the life of mens countless. and madam pls dont judge all mens basing on ur husband mentality there are black sheeps in all the genders.

i have not filed till now . Its been 4 months . but now i think i should atleast answer to all allegations my husband has put on me in our panchayat on my character and spread rumours about my name and stand for what is right . Lets see how many people support what is right . the only thing i fear is that my extended family of inlaws that is my phuphi saas and chacha sasur and all are good people . no harm should be caused to their name because of me standing for what is right . But i am just thinking . I dont know whether i will be able to stand aginst him and see v/s between our names.