Schrizophrenic wife

Santosh I can understand your mental trauma but also appreciate that you want to give her another chance.

I presume u r a Hindu & covered under Hindu Marriage Act, 1955. Though Schrizophrenia is one of the grounds for divorce but u have to prove it in Court. Even if u succeed in getting the divorce Court may ask u to pay ur wife lumpsum or periodical maintenance. U can even be asked to pay her litgation expense (including her lawyer fees) even during divorce proceeding.

U have mentioned period of minimum six months after one year marriage period. This is the case of divorce with mutual consent. In your case it is in applicable. Though u have to wait for one year to lapse after marriage but it is not sure that u will get divorce after next six months. Court will decide on facts of the case.

U need not worry about allegations of Uncle or others. U will not be punished for any act that u have not done....Any one who makes allegations have to prove them and you have right to defend yourself in court. Dont let negative thoughts into your mind and concentrate on treatment of your wife.

If any member of family gets any disease, to throw that person out of family for no fault of that person is not a ethical and wise solution. 

Hope ur wife gets well soon. Wish u a happy married life.....

However, santosh If u really want to get out of this marriage than check with your lawyer if you can apply for nullity of marriage under Section 12 of Hindu Marriage Act, 1955.

whats the state of communication between you and your wife and her family during this period of seperation what does her parents say about the issue and are the communications and relations stained due to this happening? as if the communications are open then it would be wise to talk with them through family about the next course if you want seperation.

Legal way for seperation is not easy and time consuming and if the other side feel offended by your actions of applying for divorce then they might launch cases against you so whatever way you decide try that through personal talks with them and there is no harm in giving it a try before going for seperation.

Suffering from schizophrenia as a sound ground for a decree of nullity. Whether the disease is curable or not does not make any difference. Where in due course the disease is cured, it would not affect the question of validity of marriage.-Tulsi Bai v. Manoharan 1990 (1)HLR 318

Dear Mr. Santosh,

Your marriage can be declared null & void easily but  the condition of your wife will certainly further detoriate. Understanding that you are a sensitive person this may cause mental sufferings to you in future leading to guilt feeling & depression.

You are not in an ideal situation but there are some lights

1) schizophrenia is cureable/arrestable.My next brother had schizophrenia before 25 years. After few years of treatment he became partially alright & we arranged his marriage after disclosing the fact to the bride who had agreed to marry him. I am blessed to declare that my brother has completely been cured now because his wife ferociously took care of his taking medicine regularly & with her love & care he is now completely cured. Taking of medicine regularly cures/arrests schizophrenia.

2) One of my colleague at Ernakulam found his bride  having schizophrenic bout on the first night. He cried for that night & next morning felt that it is god's wish that he takes care of her. She is now the mother of two marine engineer sons though once in two to five  years gets the bouts which her sons now take care of.My colleague is happy now.

I suggest that you take her to NIMHAMS at Bangalore first which is the ideal hospital for her treatment where I had taken my brother long back.

After giving medicine ( and also her luck) a chance you can decide your further course of action.

Best of luck.

K.K.Ganguly

thanx for sharing Ganguly Sir

Dear All,

First let me thank all of you for above important guidance and i am sorry to not keep everyone posted about progress. From last 3 months i did tried to forget all of the bad  stuff and did not wanted to go over it again and again by talking it. Last month i had been in Haridwar for 10 days for vacation and 7 days residential yoga course for better preparing myself.

Now after 5 months of last burning incident my wife is in ok now (in terms of physical appearance), until now she was being treated at her parental home for leg burns treatment daily followed by schrizophrenic treatment. Two months back both sides senior members met and agreed upon to give her a last chance and give another life to marriage. Her father agreed to write down all the stuff that has happened legally in an affidavit and make my family secured before bringing her back.

I had gone to a family court lawyer which said that such affidavit will not be of any use because it will be one sided and come back to her if i am interested in divorce. Then i discussed this to my dear friends wife who is too lawyer and she also said that affidavit will not help and directed me to contact nearby womens cell where counselling of both the parties is done and recorded. I had visited womens cell which deals with womens matters. They have told me that they can not give me anything in writing but can do counselling for my wife and can not provide any securtity to me or my family but one of the social worker said that do an affidavit with  both the parties, wife, middleman noting down all the stuff and submit a copy of it to local police station for information purpose and do not do NC. The same was told by friends wife too earlier but was nullified on the unwillful claim by her parents at later stage.

Now i have following solutions to deal with the situation.
1. Take a separate house and stay separately with my wife and take her mom to stay with me for trail couple of months. This solution requires to pay deposit for home and additonal expenditure in my monthly budget. This will give security to my mother, father, brother and sister againts my wifes suicidal attempts. As of today my father is against this and suggested me to meet another lawyer.

2. Her father accepted in person with me and medical counselor that before marriage she had hallucinations and she was treated at local pshyachtrist but he does not have any record of it. But while talking with my parents and with senior members he denied having any previous knowledge of her disease. The second option would be to perform both sides affidavit mentioning that she was being treated for disease before the marriage.

3. To counsel her at womens cell.

I am trying my best to save the marriage and give her another chance but it would be not at cost of putting my mother & father in danger zone as well putting my  brothers career on risk and prospects of my younger sister to get married on fire. I am willing to put my carrer, my life, my home & home loan on risk by living with her into separate house.

At last if nothing is going to work then i am bound to apply for divorce which may or may not be mutual. As of today my father is against of it. Request you to give me correct guidance and solution on this.

Thansk,
Santosh

First it has to be understood that it will be wrong to think that you are  giving her another chance. She is suffereing from schizophrenia and she is not at fault for her acts when she gets the bouts. This is very pathetic & I  have personally faced that. You are also right in saying that to show charity to her you can not zeopardise the peace & safety of your parents. If any body is to blamed then it is her father or mother or both but certainly not she. I am very glad to learn that you agree to bear her bouts provided your parents safety is ensured.

My suggestion is.

1) Collect all the papers/proofs/precriptions regarding her suffereing from schizophrenia. If possible premarriage  presciptions also.  This will give you the proof for annulment of your marriage which is last and least suggested. A certificate from her Doctor stating that she is prone to committing suicide due to the said decease without being influenced by any body will be very helpfull.  

2) Take the affidavit/written statement from her parents stating that she have had schizophrenia even before marriage & she is prone to committing suicide on receipt of the bouts without any outside influence & you are traeting her well & arranging her medical treatment.

3) Lodge a FIR (preemptory complaint ) to the nearby  Police Station complaining about her threats to commit suicide enclosing all documents including the affidavit & send copy to  S.P. It will be better if her parents also sign the complaint letter together with you.

4) All the above will cover you & your parents from any future problem should she creats any untoward incidence later on. Joint effort from your as well as her parents side is required to cure her. Talk to her parents in this regard.

5) Take her to NIMHAMS or to any good doctor. There are very good medicines introduced now a days. 

Best wishes from my side.

Thank you Mr. Ganguly for understanding and showing light of hope to me.  I will be following above solutions to fix my problems. Surely its her father & mother who has hided many truths from me as well my wife never told me such things before & after marriage until they come to fore. Its past now and not interested in thinking about them and to be honest i am trying my best to give our marriage a chance. I am hopefull about my married life.

She is being treated by one of the top pshychatrist in Maharashtra surely i will pay a visit to NIMHAMS Bangalore when things are in order, cant take risk now as I have observed that change in medicines makes her behaviour change.

Thanks,

Santosh