Divorce over, how to proceed to settle the maintance.

"After a year in Jan 2013, the petition stands one sided  and gave a judgement of Divorce and asked her to compromise the maintainance part".

The above sentence i have taken form your query.The above sentence replicates that you have not turned out for her divorce suit,hence it went exparte. You are divorcee right now.

If not then plz reveal what judgement been ordered on divorce?.....Your query is not complete.Even you have not told the status of her maintenance case,through which sec she had filed?

Why did you not attend the divorce proceedings? It will be difficult to overturn it without  having a valid reason.

In law, NEVER chicken out. Face the litigation and get over with it. She asked for divorce, you want it too. Divorce decree exists. So whats the problem? Ah! Maintenance? Well, no matter what, do not try to dodge maintenance because its your boy that we are talking about. Be fair. Make a fair compromise and be done with. Do not fight in Court because as I see it, you got a divorce by sitting home on your a@*s. Now, get your a#@*s out and start working. Take a job and give a percentage of that earning to her to maintain your boy. Its that simple.  Nobody is going to give you advice on how to dodge maintenance to your own baby, if thats what you are looking for. The "I resigned because of mental pressure..." is all bullsh*t. You are a man. Get employed and feed your child.

giving maintenance to your boy is justified. you cant dodge it. You could say argue giving maintenance for your wife. 

Originally posted by : Masterrenuen18
	I got married in 2010 august with a girl.After marriage, the girl stayed with me for one month and then left to their home saying that she got pregnancy. Then We were having telephonic communication for 1 more month then we do not have any kind of communication. Exactly 9 months after marriage in june 2011, the girls father called my brother and told that the girl delivered a baby boy and asked him to convey it to me! When I went there to c the baby boy, the brothers of the girls father quarreled with me with out any proper cause/ proper reason and almost throw me away from watching the baby boy. Then I turn back to my home. After 2 months in sept 2011, the girl father, mother, fathers brothers totally a gang of 10 people came onto my home quarrelld again with me for unnecessary reasons, take all the girls belongings(such as cloths, some of the gifts belongs to girl, etc) then they left. I din t took any advantage of all these things and made myself silent to see what is going to happen. After 4 months, On Jan 2012, she filed a Divorce petition on me as well as a maintaince petetion to pay her 12000 for her personal maintancce and 4 thousand for the baby maintainance. In this mean while I have resigned my job and stayed at home coz of all these mental pressures. I recieved the summons, and I din't attend the court for any trail as per a few advocates advice whom I consulted at that time. After a year in Jan 2013, the petition stands one sided  and gave a judgement of Divorce and asked her to compromise the maintainance part.    After all these incidents, I m waaked with the girl's behaviour, and not at all intrested join with her any more neither the boy.. even if she wishes to continue with me.   Now please advice me how to settle this matter  legally to make this clear. Please post all your valuble suggestions on this so that I can come out of all these headaches happening in my  cool life since 3 years. I need to come out of all this sh*t and restart my life  with out any hurdles again.   Thanks in advance !!!

You still could not find out the proper reason why they quarreled with you?What did you expect...they should welcome you with grand party?Your pragnant wife was with them ..did you do any duty towards her in her pragnency?Now when she asked maintenance you loose interest over the baby also?

Sir , many times heard that DEED OF DIVORECE , registered on stamp paper and in registered office / at notery office is not valid, than also many advocates are making such kind of documnets,pls let me know whehter in hindu marriage this DEED OF DIVOERECE is valid. Thanks

@Ranee

Wife is supposed to live in the matrimonial home. What do you expect go to her with a big bouquet after her willful separation of 9months? When their agenda is to fight with their son-in-law then why the heck they called him?

Stop your bullsh*t and think twice before you comment on a victim. He is undergoing severe mental trauma in his life. Show some mercy before you start with your junk man-woman equality. What is his wife a kid or what? what was she doing for the past 10months? Why the in-laws have to poke their nose? Suppose if the guy's parent do the same thing with a girl, throw her away then I am sure YOU will cry all over the forum but here you are talking non-sense!!!

Nobody should break the marriage and being elders they should never do such an act.

@Author

Its your duty to take care of your wife and kids. Now that you have not attended the divorce proceedings, fault is on your side. You should have condemned her willful desertion, so now show your liabilities and plead for a lesser maintenance for your wife and kid.

He could try to bring her back as she is carrying his child.It was his duty.A woman won't leave husband's place without any reason just after marriage.He (author) has stated censored story.Wife's brother/father was taking care of her.A wife needs husband's mental support in this period which they can not give.Only a wife knows how it feels when husband is not in touch of her in this delicate period.

You have ignored the important part of the whole situation which is the root of the whole problem.

I am a strong proponent of men's cases with the presumption that the man is a victim. However, in certain cases, LIKE HERE, that assumption is not correct. Based upon the initial posting of this gentleman, he deserves no sympathy. He is a loser... resigned his job... not working... all stupid excuses to avoid maintenance payment to his own flesh-and-blood.

You still could not find out the proper reason why they quarreled with you?What did you expect...they should welcome you with grand party?Your pragnant wife was with them ..did you do any duty towards her in her pragnency?Now when she asked maintenance you loose interest over the baby also?

Rani, Thanks for the response.   I think no man in this world is willing to leave a girl within a month of time, whom he loved and married!! When you say the reason might be my duties which are not proper towards taking care of her for 1 month... still No man can expect this kind of a response(Divorce) from a girl. It is something that any girl will report to their parents and all the gentlemen who made the marriage can have a sit and solve the problems. But here it is different .  She straigt away went for divorce saying that  I m nothing for her. Perhaps this might be the reason why the Advocates advised me to not to attend the case till the end.  And coming to duties, I have done my duties more than what she expected, for the timeframe(1 month) she lived with me.. It is only she who avoided me completely ....has to give the answer.