Thanks for the reply NANDKUMAR Jee,
Actally i had put my comments as simple as possible. now will be able to clarify things in detail.
KINDLY NOTE THAT YOUR MARRIAGE IS JUST 4 YEARS OLD
In this 4 years she stayed in my house maximum for 7 days in continuation.
When ever i got her convinced to come back ( For that i used to stay her Fathr's Place 2-3 days a week) she will run away within 2 days. She will make big issues out of miner, call her father and will force him to take her back by emotionally black mailing him ( Her mother expired 2 years before the marriage). She never considered me and my parent's requests to stay and discuss. I should not have stayed at her father's place that i realize now.
YOUR WIFE WAS IN HOSPITAL FOR DELIVERY. SOME MISUNDERSTANDINGS AND FIGHT STARTED.
The night before she was supposed to come to my place from the hospital she called me and started abusing me for Boozing. she wanted to create an issue so that she can prevent that. Next day by the time i reached hospital to take her... the job was already done. She got her Father convinced and her father started abusing me in the reception. My 3 days old daughter was literally snatched from my hands, created big issues and the went back.
SHE WANTS TO STAY WITH YOU,IT IS UP TO YOU TO COMPROMISE THE MATTER IN THE INTEREST OF YOUR FAMILY AND KIDS.
Yes she does...but only in her terms and conditions with full freedom in a separate house. Even the Husband will not have a say in any thing, just obey her orders. U as a husband only have duties to do no rights and emotional expectation can be kept. u r a pet not a human.
I faced this when i used to frequently visit her. My stay their During her pregnancy was a torture i was insulted every now and then they critisized my parents and family values always. Few times i had to leave that place to avoid further quarrel.In my case It was other way round - what is considered to happen with wifes.
KINDLY NOTE THAT MOST OF THE PRESENT ACTS ARE IN FAVOUR OF MARRIED WOMAN.
That is the main reason why she has taken me, my parents, law and the society for granted.
Her principle in life is very simple - I am well educated with distinction, in a gvt job, own duplex house, Father has enough money in bank acct, only child, got married, have a kid. So every thing till now in life is accomplished. If the husband wants to stay in my terms then he is well come or go to hell i dont need him.
YOU MAY DISCUSS THE MATTER WITH YOUR WIFE AND TRY TO SORT OUT THE PROBLEMS AND DIFFERENCES, AS TIME PASSES YOU WILL REALISE THE MISTAKES AND MISUNDERSTANDINGS WILL BE SORTED OUT.SO GOOD LUCK. SAVE YOUR FAMILY.
I have come out of that stage now. no option left other than the above points mentioned.
so i in nutt shell I am being forced to look for divorce because all my attempts failed. I cant accept her demands. I was committed till the last day ....she tried to escape every time.
She has law and social sympathy with her. I only have hope to restart my life and will be fighting for it
Regards
Arindam