Facts of case
1. He is 28( Orissa), She is 22( Haryana).
2. Boy gets married to girl from conservative family and society.Gets a marriage certificate.
3. Boys fears
(a) " its their area and her parents can doo nything with money nd political influence"
(b) Girls area is known for honor killing.
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General Opinion and Comments.
1. Law, Court, Legal advice in certain cases are moot. Family traditions, culture, izzat, samaaj,mulk etc all have to be considered before taking any steps forward.
2. You or your new wife may very well be found dismembered and this has happened in a recent case in Haryana and the police wrote the matter off as suicide. Please check the archives on LCI. There are several other stories ( facts), several unreported.
3. Legal notices and summons may aggravate the other party to a point where an entire village will drive from Haryana to Orissa and burn down the Petitioners village. Such incidents have happened in India and the advocate and his papers may just go down in ashes. Be forewarned and accept reality of Indian culture, family traditions.
Certain assumptions
1. Petitioner has an education and the girls family may consider "respectable enough".
2. Petitioner has a job and is able to support himself.
3. Petitioner over the course of 2 years has established minimum acceptable civil relations with the girls family.
Courses of actions
1. Given the potential threat to the girl and boys life and limb and the history of burning, killing and dismembering of the girl or boy in eloping cases in Haryana, it is not adviced to move the court first.
2. Petitioner has to craft tactful approaches to win the respect of the girls parents. Following this, the boys parents or the elders of the area where the girl resides can be approached requesting for matrimonial alliance with the girls family without the boy becoming dominant in the picture. The elders should be given the background of the boys education, health, family backgound etc.
3. Solicit a response from the girls family. Depending on the response of the girls parents and family, in confidence disclose ( or dont disclose) to the village elder that a marriage has taken place and that Petitioners parents begs the elders to get involved in peace making and settlement.
4. Exhaust all peaceful approaches first before thinking of court and eloping. Post the response and developments to this forum for collective wisdom.
5. Finally, dont do anything stupid like getting her pregnent. You are walking a tight rope. You may not be in a position to post on LCI ever again if you dont take utmost care.