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I am Athish Vinod aged 33 yrs from Bangalore. I got married on 5th June 2014. It was an arranged marriage solemnized by elders of both the families. We found her profile from our community marriage bureau.
We didn't have any time to know each other before the marriage. The girl’s parents arranged everything in a hurry. We had an engagement just one day before the marriage. Hence there was no chance that we both could know about each other.
She is a working women in a MNC and 31 yrs old. Their family had told us that her marriage was fixed with another person and got cancelled on the day of marriage due to some financial discussion some 14 yrs back (they had mentioned this on the matrimonial form as well).
We went ahead with the alliance because the marriage was cancelled because the groom demanded the dowry and we trusted the girl's family for their honesty.
After the marriage on 5th June 2014, we went for a holy trip for 4 days came back to Bangalore. I noticed that she had cut marks on her left hand (probably has cut using a blade), when asked she replied it is because of a girls matter.
I hosted a non-veg party on 16th June 2014 for both the families and realtives as part of our community tradition.
Due the commencing of aashada month on 17th June 2014 (during this period, the newly married couples has to stay away from each other till the month ends. She came back to marital home on Aug 1st 2014. As stated we both are working professionals. Mine is general shift timings and she used to leave home at 10 AM and return home at 11:30 PM. She used to come home very tired and disinterested even though she used to travel to work by a cab provided by the company.
She never disclosed her salary details to me and on every weekend she wanted to go to her parents house. She was not affectionate and caring towards me and to my parents. She was not interested to live with me as my parents stay with me. She never did household work. She just used to go to work come back home and sleep. Didn’'t used to talk to anyone.
Basically she was not interested in the marriage and she got married only for the sake of society as she had a pressure from her parents and brother. She always wanted to marry a businessman or a man who is earning 1 Lakh per month.
On Sep 5th 2014, she left marital home by quarrelling with my parents and finally on 20th Sep 2014 she came with her elder brother and took her clothes and jewels including my chain and engagement ring that was given at the time of marriage. We tried over level best to sort out the issue and bring her back but all vent in vain as they were not supportive.
Hence I consulted an advocate and sent her a legal notice saying to come back to marital home immediately and within a month I got a reply notice saying that she has all the evidence to file a dowry case and domestic violence act against me and my parents and also stated that she is ready to start marital life with me.
So, again I sent a legal notice again saying that we can sort the difference by meeting at a common place along with our legal counsel. Another fact is that she never allowed me to touch her.
I got a second reply notice from here, in which she spoke only lies. She said I don’t have the ability to perform a s*xual act; she wanted me to consult a s*xologist and psychiatrist and said she would file a dowry case against me and my aged old parents.
Again I sent a reply for her second notice in Jan 2015, saying the same we are ready to have a dialogue to sort out the differences but we didn’t get any response from her and her parents.
Now exactly on 5th June 2015, she had filed a petition in family court to nullify this marriage due to unconsummated marriage and has also said I am impotent.
My only doubt is, why she didn’t mention that I am impotent to my first notice reply, at that time she said she is willing to return to the martial home
Now I have decided that, I don’t want to lead my life with such a girl, who is not responsible, loyal and honest in a relationship.
We also came to know from one of her close neighbor that she had got married already and had got divorced. They entire family has hidden this truth from us.
But the person who told about this, might not come out in open to say this truth. Can we find her divorced records in the family court?
She is doing the exactly the same, what she has done to another man.
Possible she wants to make a quick buck , so once she gets money they will vacant this area and will move to another area and again will start hunting for a groom again.
I don’t want another person and his family to get cheated from this girl and her family.
I have to appear before the court on 5th Sep 2015. Please advise me, on What need to be done?
Do I need to undergo potent test before the court order me to do. Even If I prove that I am potent, I don’t wish to continue martial life with her, as I don’t see any honesty and loyalty in this relationship.
Awaiting for your reply
Athish Vinod