My husband I have got separate from last 2 months. I was married for 2.5 years and it was a love marriage. He has issues with his manhood and it was hidden from me. We have never had any intimate relationship between us. He and his mother (who knew about the situation) hide this from me. After the marriage I realized it. When asked about it he dodged the question and picked up fights on something else and diverted the topic. He always spent more time with his mother and she helps him in avoiding me. Even when he did night shifts and came late, be it at 2:00am to 4:00am, she always got up and they used to sit and talk hours together even at that hour just to avoid going to bed with me. She always accompanied us wherever we went. She used to pick up fights with lame excuses if I went even for a small walk with him. During out trip to Darjeeling and Gangtok (Apr 2015), she came with us forcefully and stayed in the same room in both the places for all 10 days.
Whenever I asked to get treatment for his impotency he gave one or the other reason. All this happened in front of his mother. They also said that no one gets married just to have s*x. Eventually after many fights I had to let go of it and move on as I was ashamed to talk about this to my parents and friends
After a year when I talked about having a child with medical help he never showed any interest and like always made some lame excuse. His mother supported him and asked me if I really wanted to have kids. I felt deceived and made me depressed as I found no reason to look forward in life. But I constantly pushed to visit a fertility clinic, it led to many fights. He and his mother said that he will not get any treatment, nor they are interested in having a child and I should do what I want to.
They not only mentally harrassed me but also my husband used beat me and psh me against the wall and hurt me. I used to tolarate all this only hoping that it will be al fine one day and also since it was love marriage I had no face to go to my people (I do not have paretnts, i was raised by relatives). huband has serious anger issues and is of very suspecioud mind. he used to call all my friends in office and threten them using abusive language. due to which many of my friends stopped talking to me.
from last May the tourture become intolarable so I left the house and am in a PG. my husband has filed a adultery case on me and one of my friend saying we have an affair.
I am ok to divorce him but not on the grounds he is saying. I have told him to file a mutual divorce but he is not agreeing. He acts like a psyco and says that he will not let me live happily even and make sure I roam court to court. He knows as per law he cannot hurt me in adutery case so he is thretening me that he will spoil my friend's life and his career. my lawer said that he must be doing to to avoid giving money. i even told him that i do not want any money from him. still he doesnt understand. he said that i have to go back to him and live with him else he will go with the case. i do not have that kind of money or mental strenght to deal with this maddness. please help me with some suggestions as what i should do.
since I wanted to come out of this mess sooner and move to another country basis of my job and start a new life, I did not file any case or police complaint again him. But now will that back fire me? if i now file a police case, will that be considered as a revert to his adultery case? will the judge see that even tho there is alimoney payment, husband is not agreeing for divorce? what do I do next? How do I protect my friend from this vindictive husband
