We often assume in an Indian joint family that if majority of family members speak against 1 member,he may be really bad.Therefore all have turned against him.So majority wins!
Same thing happens in a workplace also.If we hear majority of people saying that this particular colleague is bad and not worth talking,he may really be bad.We too end up joining the gang without applying our minds..
Instead of believing those feedbacks instantly,do we stop and think that the badmouthed guy must in reality be the victim of gang mentality,and therefore all have turned against him?
Do we ever feel that he must be getting bullied by them,which must be spoiling his mental health?
Do we talk to him privately to hear his side of the story?Maybe all rumours about him turn out to be false!!
A daughter inlaw in a joint family or a colleague in a workplace who may be disliking him may have instigated others against him.Since these instigators are usually charming,all believe him and start following him like a herd of sheep.
If the victim was really a bad,crooked person,as others say,would he not have used his crooked or manipulative mind to turn everyone in his favour instead of making so many enemies?
A manipulator usually has many followers while a bullied person is left alone!And a loner can never harass anyone even if these gangs say!We must remember this golden truth while observing these relationship dynamics in joint families or in workplaces!!
If we do,we will never have gang mentalities in joint families or in workplaces.
What do you say folks?
