Prasad (IT Consultant) 16 December 2014

Wife threatening suicide

Hello all.. I got married in India in 2008 and had a daughter in 2010 March. I came to United States in 2010 Dec and my wife stayed back in India. My wife stayed back in India and I told her to apply for passport and join me after 3-4 months. She neglected and ignored. And whenever I sent an email asking her to apply for passport she replied saying I never told her to apply for passport. Funny and annoying, So I stopped writing and contacting her. Once she went to my mother’s place forcibly and my wife beaten my Mother, my mother is all alone and my wife managed saying that she didn’t do anything like that. I know the fact that she did perform the act of beating my mother, but I am helpless. My wife is very rude, cunning and very difficult to get along for a normal human being. I completely stopped contacting my wife. She came back to me in Jan 2014 and started asking me to get her to USA and I didn’t do that since I lost faith and interest in her. Since Oct’2014 she is daily calling me and saying that if I don’t get her to USA by Dec 30th 2014 she will commit suicide. I got scared and stopped calling her. She is calling me and leaving messages that she will die If I ignore her calls or don’t call her. I am really very much scared. I spoke to her few times on skype, she shown a knife on her hand and said If I don’t get her to USA by Dec 30th She is going to cut her hand with knife and die, I managed to RECORD this on skype and I have the recording, it is very scary. I asked her to get separate and she said she is not going to leave. KINDLY GIVE SUGGESTIONS AND OFFER ME LEGAL PROTECTION

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naveen arya (member) 16 December 2014

Everything is against you, law as well as situation you are in. 1.What's of she really died? 2. By law she is your wife, and needs to be with you in USA. As you said you had email in which she is denying that you said her about passport. This will also go against you. My suggestion is try to settle this issue as soon as you can. But if you are finding hard to settle, go for divorce. Adv. Naveen Karnal 9034823167.

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Advocate Ravinder (Advocate/Attorney) 16 December 2014

If you can manage with her it is better to patch up the misunderstandings . If you are not interested to live with her, you have to go to india and get divorce. If she agrees you can get mutual consent divorce in 6 to 8 months. Otherwise, you have to get divorce by contesting. It may take 3 to 4 years. If she is threatening to suicide, it is better to give a legal notice asking her to mend her ways and not to threaten you. This will be useful to you in future, in case she files any criminal case against you For further details contact me 7893011777 or ravinder2345@gmail.com.

SuperHero (Manager) 16 December 2014

@ Prasad – A coin has two sides meaning your story has 2 ways.

a) If you go to India and then you can talk to her and see what she is interested in, you can sense and guess it, continue working in India.

b) If she writes a letter and attempts suicide in India, then you can fight and of course there will be legal troubles and hazards.

c) Or this just might be a threat call or an emotional drama.

d) You can also inform (lie) her that your project is complete and I will be returning to India. See what she says.

Now if you bring her to USA.

1 Then if she attempts suicide or does something crazy, you will be worried, every day you will be walking on eggs and you know never know when it breaks, and you walking with hot fire on top of your head. You might be in big trouble. Point b.

2 In USA you will have Friends to help, but it will not be that easy going to see doctors, courts and attorneys and jail.

What you should have done?

When your wife abused your Mother. Your Mother should have filed a Domestic Violence case on her.

You should have been contacting her regularly. Ok past is Past.

Present.

As per Advocate’s advice – Ask her to mend her ways by sending a legal notice.

Record all the conversations and also video record them. Contact her Family members and inform them. If they assure you by written nothing will happen, then you can take a step.

The root cause of the Problem is she is in depression and not mentally strong.

She has to go to for a treatment via a Psychiatrist and develop her will power to come out of it. This would be from Childhood and nobody would have taken care to mend her ways. Even their Parents wouldn’t have known.

There is a Proverb in Telugu – If it doesn’t bend when it is a plant, then how will it bend when it is a Tree.

She may not listen meeting Psychiatrist and remember even though you have insurance they are expensive and also think of your child.

Also remember in USA if she is cunning and rude she might call cops and put a case on Domestic Violence.

You might lose job, then again Courts and attorneys.

In this world of instability, anything can happen.

Read Natarajan Sir’s post – Strength is Life and Weakness is Death by Swami Vivekananda.

Think deeply and Pray to God with Love and Devotion to give you Strength to face what is in front of you.

Good Luck!!!

SuperHero (Manager) 16 December 2014

Hope you have followed the advices given in this post.

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Divorce-and-maintanance-79311.asp#.VJBocivF-zI

On an another post I have seen Women can’t file or claim husband’s property. You can check in LCI.

T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate (Advocate) 23 December 2014

In the given situation, it will be like digging your own grave if you take her to US to live with her because she does not appears to be in a normal mentality and seems to she suffers from some depression due to which she will again indulge in all kinds of torture at abroad too. This may become fatal. As you said that you have recorded version of her threats, simply remain silent to all her onslaughts, wait until the D day, if nothing happens sigh a relief, suppose it happens, its her fate. That time the video recorded evidence may come handy to you in case you are implicated in a criminal case.