Advise requested for family marriage disputes
Ramesh
(Querist) 22 September 2015
This query is : Resolved
DEAR SIR,
I AM MUKESH AND GET MARRIAGE OF MY SON TWO YEARS BACK APPROX...AND AT PRESENT NO SON & NO DAUGHTER FROM THEM..(IN MY FAMILY ME WIFE AND ONE SON ONLY)..
AFTER SIX MONTHS OF MARRIAGE ALL ARE WEL AND NO DISPUTE...AFTER THAT SOME HOT DISCUSSIONS MADE IN HOME IN BETWEEN FAMILY AND RESOLVED. IN DURING SON'S WIFE INFORMED TO THEIR PEEHAR AND HER PARENTS .THEY CAME AT US AND DISCUSSED WITH THRATENING OF F.I.R..
LATER ON WE MET THEM AND EXCUSES FOR ANY BAD/HARD WORDS AND HOT DISCUSSIONS...THEN ALL ARE NORMAL,
THE NATURE OF SON'S WIFE TO RUN SOCIAL MEDIA DURING HOUSE WORK LIKE FB AND WHATSSPP AND MATTER AGAIN HOT ON THAT SUBJECT...AGAIN IT WAS RESLOVED WITH SETTLED TIME OF RUN HOURS FOR HIS WIFE...
LAST SIX MONTHS BACK, MY SON MAKE A FEMALE GF ON WHATSPP..AND ALSO HAD MSG /PICS ON ONLY WHATSPP LEVEL..IT IS SEEN BY HIS WIFE AND AGAIN CREATE A HOT ATMOSPHERE..WE TRIED TO RESOLVE AND MET BOTH FAMILY EACH OTHER AND CLEARED ALL MINOR DISPUTES..
NOW, WE REQUESTED FOR SEND SON'S WIFE FROM PEEHAR TO HIS LAWS HOUSE (AT MY HOUSE) BUT THEY ASK FOR A WRITING AGREEMENT WITH HELP OF THEIR AN ADVOCATE ON RS.100/-STAMP PAPER AG SOME BINDING ON US..WHICH WE HAVE TRIED TO DENIED REGULARLY.THEY ALSO SAYS FOR ADD OUR POINTS IN THAT AGREEMENT.
KIND ADVISE WHETHER WE SHOULD SIGN SUCH TYPE AGREEMENT WHEREAS THERE ARE NO PROBLEM FROM ME AND MY WIFE AT ANY TIME, ITS ONLY TIMEBING PROBLEM IN HUSBAND WIFE.....AND IF YOU SAYS YES FOR SIGN...THEN WHAT TERMS AND CONDITIONS WE SHOULD AGREE & SIGN..SO THAT WE CAN MAKE A HAPPY ATMOSPHERE..
PLS ALSO ADVISE WHAT TYPE OF CONDITIONS WE SHOULD PUT BY OUR SIDE SO THAT THEY CANNOT HEAVY ON US OR BLACKMAIL IN FUTURE...
KIND ADVISE ME AT SOONEST POSSIBLE.
THANKS & REGARDS
YOURS REMAINS...
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 22 September 2015
These are family matters to be discussed and settled within the four walls by both the parties.Fault lies with all of U of both the sides,better settle the matter without legal complications.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 22 September 2015
Agreements between family do not resolve the differences and disputes.
Ramesh
(Querist) 22 September 2015
Sir,
We tried all this with our best efforts but they are not agree to resolve the matter without written agreement. so please advise what type of agreement we can signed and what bad impacts of it ( in future).
what points we can add from our side.
please advise
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 22 September 2015
Get the language of the so called agreement from them, get it checked / vetted by your own lawyer and if after full discussion, act as per his advise.
Such agreement never resolve family disputes.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 22 September 2015
The given facts are in your own language but do indicate that you are a tormentor family whose credentials have been lost in the eye of girl's parents and are in no mood to trust you.
Even without an agreement you are open for allegation true/false on Domestic violence and Dowry Demand
I agree with the views of Mr RK Goyal that
"Such agreement never resolve family disputes. "
I would add that ever be the wording or agreement or let there be no agreement the impact is going to be heavy on you.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 22 September 2015
Being the head of the family I think U have failed in UR duties to safegaurd the marital life of UR son and daughterinlaw.Writings and scriptures can be erased any time but not the hurt caused to the heart,which keeps on tickling every breath one takes.
Continuing UR query U mentioned hot discussions in the family but resolved,what were those hot discussions,can U kindly clarify
Ramesh
(Querist) 23 September 2015
WEL...NOTED..
LET ME KNOW...AS PER ACTS, WHAT THEN CAN DONE AG US WHERAS WE NEVER SAID/DEMANDED ANY DOWERY OR MANSIK/SARIRIK PRATADNA ETC..ONLY HOT TALKS MEANS ONLY "APPSABD" LIKE "BAAP" INPLACE OF "FATHER" NOT EVEN "GALI" AND ALL HAPPENED IN AGGRESSIVENESS.
HOW WE CAN PROTECT OUR SELF BY LEGAL SIDE..
HOWEVER, WE ARE TRYING OUR BEST WITHIN HOUSE WITH EFFORTS OF RELATVIES FOR FORGIVE / FORGET SMALL SMALL THINGS BOTHSIDE AND COMPROMISE WHREVER NEEDS..
LET ME KNOW ALSO HOW CAN ME/MY FAMILY CAN PROTECT OUR SELVES BY LEGAL SIDE..
PLS HELP...WITH PROCEDURE...
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 23 September 2015
Dear Ramesh
Signing the documents/agreement is not a good option, it may be possible to use against you and your wife, if the dispute is regarding husband and wife then, let them resolve by themselves, there is no need for any documentation.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 23 September 2015
Rightly concluded by Adv Qureshi
