Regarding live in relationship
Deepak Kumar
(Querist) 07 February 2019
This query is : Resolved
I am 39 years old man got married in 2008. Due to some differences, in April 2016 my wife left me deserted and started living with her parents. Neither she is ready to come back nor she wanna give me the divorce. Moreover now I also don't have any feelings for her and don't want to patch up with her. I and my family tried our best to get out from this mess by mutual consent but all in vain. I am interested in one of my friend, she is divorced. Now my question is:-
1. I don't want to get into court matter to get a divorce from my wife. I want to live in with my friend. Can I stay in live in relationship with my that friend? What can be the consequences of this and what precaution I have to take for it?
2. Can my wife file a dowery case or DV case against me?
3. Is there any time limit for filing dowery and DV case, as my wife is living with her parents from past 3 years, or she can file any case any time.
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 07 February 2019
Live in relationship with another woman is possible if that woman is with her free consent agree for it otherwise she may open another Pandora box later on for you to face two women on war path against you.
As far filling DV complaint case, lodging FIR u/s 488a etc.IPC is concerned that can be done anytime by your wife as that is her legal right, whether she will succeed, whether the time limit exists , all these issues will be checked and worked out when thing come in play.
All these criminal complaint cases against you can be opened even as you're present till no not living in relationship so why worry if those are opened later on enjoy life now, lawyers are there to take care of legal cases while clients enjoy in life.
Deepak Kumar
(Querist) 07 February 2019
Sir, in fact, I want to marry the second one, we have very good tuning, good understanding. But I can not marry her until I get the divorce from my wife. So according to me, this is way out to live and spend my rest of life with her. I don't know whether I am right or wrong.
Martin S.
(Expert) 07 February 2019
I had already replied to your query in Family Section. Here it is again.
"You tried marriage. And marriage failed. Now as you know its waste to get married. Try live - in relationship, perfectly legal. Recently Honourable Supreme Court of India has decrminalized adultery. That means to say SC transported indian male to stone age, now he can sleep with anyone he wants, narr ho ya naari, if your wife has a problem with it, she can file for divorce and take it from court. While you will have to just agree to giving divorce. Apart from that there is no legal consequences. By the way, whats the fun in knowing the future ? You want to try something adventurous and even Law permits it, why are you scared of consequences? what you need is someone who can reciprocate your feelings and be with you, well that is what marriages are supposed to be, isnt it? So go ahead. Dont think too much. For your surety just google adultery decrminalized by supreme court of India. You will find many articles on the net. Judgement you will find on NIC website. Good luck."
It appears that you are of fickle mind. If you are so much worried about consequences of getting into live in relationship, then you should have been more worried about consequences which lead to failure of marriage of you not giving your best shot at your marriage.
Something should make sense somewhere, either you should have been careful enough to treat your marriage in proper way so that you would not be in the situation you are right now, that your wife left you and went and does not want to give divorce too.
You were not careful with your marriage.
Now you are worried that you will get screwed in live in relationship too.
It is advisable looking at your state of mind which is fickle, that you do not enter into any relationship unless you secure divorce from your wife. Even if you are getting divorced, then too you will have lot of inhibitions to get into new relatoinship as a result of failed marriage.
Better to stay single and not bother too much about getting into any relationship.
Relationships require lot of attention, care, love. If you dont provide them continually then partners will eventually move out.
Live in relationship gone sour has its ugly face too. Rape case, being foremost. Claiming rent and maintenance and if children are born out of it, they will suffer too and they will make you suffer if they dont get enough attention, love, care.
Trust forms the basis of all the above. Which was missing in your marriage. So it failed. If you want to go ahead with live in, then give it a 100%, it will succeed into beautiful relationship.
10 times fcuk and then ja behen tell and behave as if mera lauda kay jayega. Then next time you will go to jail.
Perhaps today or some day later you will understand importance of giving love, affection, attention, trust.
Hope this helps.
Martin S.
(Expert) 07 February 2019
With legally recognized relationship marriage itself you both were casual and still are. Just imagine how you will be in live in relatiohship? You wil want to marry her, but she will be no more than a keep in the eyes of the society. Think deeply before pursuing anything.
Martin S.
(Expert) 07 February 2019
IF 1 and 2 join hands, suicide will be the only option for you. Wife file dowry case dv cae, keep file rape case, fraud case, maintenance case. You have to go uzbekistan or do suside.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 09 February 2019
No legal issue in your live-in relation with lady except the fact the off-springs of such relation shall be entitled for share in your property and you are liable to shoulder burden of her maintenance.
Better to settle your life with paramour peacefully for ever, if both of you like so and move for divorce from your wife.
Your wife can claim maintenance any time, no limitation.
Guest
(Expert) 09 February 2019
Presently Adultery is not a Crime and just a valid legal ground for Divorce
