Cruelty from WIFE and more over threttnings from Her parents
pratap reddy
(Querist) 10 January 2011
This query is : Resolved
I am an husband married on 8th November 2009. I am suffering with my wife tortures like she want to separate me from my parents and want all her control on my earnings and also threatening from her and her parents that, if i don't come into her grip she and her parents will file cases on me and my family members. I am facing this type of mental tortures from her since the 4th day after my marriage. She also not agreed for sexual intercourse.
For the last 14 months she is residing in her parent’s home in Suryapet, with out taking visa to join with me in Italy and also not living in my house in Macherla in India with my parents even though I requested. She told that, she do not want to stay along with my (husband) parents and also she told that, since last 5 years prior to our marriage she loved a boy but her parents denied to marry her with him and her parents further searched for a rich orphan well settled boy to marry, after she completed MCA degree in 2004(this she told me within 10 days after marriage). This shows that clearly her cruel mentality and cheating nature of her parents.
I totally cheated by her and her parents as they told during marriage discussions that, she is good girl well co-operative and adjustable girl, and even i informed her and asked for co-operation agree during the engagement day itself that, my parents will stay with me only instead of my brother as my brother is economically week. Then she agreed but after marriage is over, she started the torture which is actually her real character. Even she did not tried to complete VISA procedure to get Visa in India to join with me after my several requests.
Now i am in very disturbed state of mental condition, and i am unable to do my research projects also not in a well concentrated mind in the university in Italy. Her behavior and threatening in phone conversations till the April 2010 end (later i stopped phone contact conversations with her cruel way of thinking and mental torture to me) made me totally mentally disturbed.
I am working on scientific project in Italy, these tortures are very much disturbing me and causing threat to my scientific future. I decided to take divorce as I think I am unable to continue marriage life with her. She is staying till today in her parent’s house and she only stayed 1 day in my home during marriage reception.
Sir recently on 25th Nov. 2010, my parents had discussions with her parents among the sacred mediators in my sister and brother-in-law house (it is the same town of wife). During the discussions my parents brought the issue what I am suffering and my family suffering with her attitude and her talks with me in telephone conversations (like she do not like in-laws and wants to separate me from my parents and demanding my salaried to transfer into her accounts instead of my parents etc.,). And my parents requested o stay with them coming to my home in my town, and also requested assurance bond from her parents and from her, that she has changed completely and behave in good moral value girl and mingle with in-laws and co-operate with our well reputed (in my town) family and system.
But her parents denied and moreover threatened in an abused manner that, their daughter won’t come to our (husband) parents home and also they denied to take the chance to keep their daughter with my parents home for the betterment of her change in mentality. Moreover they immorally demanding that, I (husband) have to bear all her tortures and behaviors as I had tied the sacred thread to her neck. But sir really speaking she never co-operated for the costumed family way of living in the days I stayed in India after marriage, and even not behaved in a decent wife way of talks in telephone conversations. Sir I am severely suffering with her behaviors as my profession highly needs a peace of mentality.
Further her parents also threatened my parents that, if I (husband) do not obey her (wife) all desires (which are actually abnormal) they will do dharna in front of my sister-brother-in-law home and demanding my(husband) immediate return to India. If not they will files cases on my family and myself. Also her (wife) father called to my mobile in Italy and threatened me the same on the same day after the unfruitful discussions and warnings to my parents by them (wife parents).
Sir immediate to the next day (26th Nov. 2010) her (wife) uncle (age is around 45) intimated to our relative at my sister and brother-in-law home that, they will file a petition in the court against my family and myself.
Sir here I once again request you to keenly observe her and her family behaviour and talking’s and their moral values and the way they resolving the issues (very immoral and arrogant and torturing way) in the discussion meeting with my parents. All these things highly disturbed me mentally and all my threshold limits were broken. Being my self cheated by her and her parents and her family non moral values and their tortures since last 14 months. Hence now I decided to get separation from her from the marriage bond, otherwise it (wife and wife family) will totally spoil my mental piece, bright scientific future , totally me and my well reputed family system .
Kindly also suggest me filing the divorce petition, that would protect me by dissolution of the decree of marriage certificate to relieve from the cruel wife and her parents.
Thank you very much
PRM
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 10 January 2011
If you think that your future cohabition is no more possible then proceed to file a suit for divorce on the ground of cruelty.
Amit Minocha
(Expert) 11 January 2011
yo can file divorce and your parents can also seek protection from Court against her acts. amitminocha@yahoo.com
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 11 January 2011
Mr.Reddy - It is very sorry state of affairs. Please follow the advice of above experts. In the meanwhile to protect your bright future :
a) maintain calmness and do not respond to anything relating to this affair.
b) Advise your parents also not to respond to anything and you prople have to ignore the entire episode and start living peacefully. You develop the courage the to face boldly for any actions that may be taken from their side. You gather the evidence to prove cruelty if you file a divorce petition.
But if you think too much about this, you will loose everything. Certain things are not in our hands. you are only the witness for certain happenings. Things will settle down once you develop the courage to face such situations. Do your duty (of filing divorce petition or facing the actions from that side) sincerely and the rest, with the God. I wish you to come of this mental state as early as possible.
M V Gupta
(Expert) 12 January 2011
From what u have stated it appears that the marriage has not been consummated and ur wife has consistantly refused cohabitation and has not been residing in the marital home or agrees to come to u. These are sufficient grounds to obtain divorce. In view of the threats being given by the girls parents better take immediate steps to file a petition for divorce by engaging an advocate at ur place. Dont delay.
R.venkatesh Naidu
(Expert) 14 January 2011
Better, when she wants divorce you accpcept it and you give your concern. dont delay.If you did not satisfy this decision you may choose above mentioned methods.
There are two ways for seeking divorce.the 1 is by way filing civil suit for nullity and dclaration of the marriage cerficate as null and void.
2. to file a petition for divoce under section 13B, mutual consent.
Both ways are safe from her for demanding maintenance by her.
And Whether she was salaried person, you Challange to need not pay the maintainence.
