Curious case of my brother
dhirender sharma
(Querist) 05 June 2017
This query is : Resolved
Good evening experts,
I would state the facts of the case first. My Brother who is 26 year old working in government establishment is in relation with one of his female colleague from his office, who is a divorcee. My parents are socially attached to their family roots doesnt want this relation to be carried on.
The divorce took place after 3 months of her marriage. We have tried to make him understand that we would not accept this relation of theirs which is around 2 years old.
we have tried all possibilities to make him understand, but he has not budge at all. We had talked to the female friend to provide us a copy of divorce decree,but she refused. She also refused to divulge the phone number of her ex husband, stating that he will say bad of her in front of us.
We have make several inquiries about her past life from higher authorities of her office.
I presume they have indulged into intercourse and now the girl is threatening him to marry her. This fact has not been revealed by my brother. This might be forcing him to clinging on to that girl. We are facing very uncongenial environment at home because of daily fights.
My brother is adamant to marry that girl may be in pressure or if he try to get married with girl of my parents choice, she may land him in jail on the pretext of rape.
I would like guidance on the following points
1. is there any legal recourse to end this impasse.
2. how do we get him back legally.
3. How can we stop this relation legally
4. any other relevant point which the experts might want to throw light upon.
P. Venu
(Expert) 06 June 2017
There are no legal elements involved; hence there are no remedies known to Law.
Guest
(Expert) 06 June 2017
No legal remedy. Only elders advice can work, only if he is willing to adhere.
However, if you want to verify her past, you can hire services of some detective agency for the purpose.
Otherwise, that must be endured, which cannot be cured.
dhirender sharma
(Querist) 06 June 2017
Thank you very much in devoting your time for replying to my query
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 06 June 2017
In the given facts agree with the expert P. S. DHINGRA.
Guest
(Expert) 06 June 2017
Thanks for agreeing with me, Mr. Rajendra K Goyal.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 06 June 2017
Both of them are adult/completed mandatory age to marry, there is legal impediment in getting them married.
Social pressure is stated to have failed. Even then your brother can be disowned from the property of your parents, as a pressure tactics, if it may work.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 06 June 2017
Dr J C Vashista has appropriated.
Another perspective: If you could not convince your brother that the assumed physical relations (by you) were consensual, and if your brother agrees, take him to a very senior counsel of unshakable repute and integrity specializing in Family matters and let the counsel appraise him.
If his fears in his sub conscious mind are addressed to his satisfaction he may muster some courage.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 06 June 2017
"The divorce took place after 3 months of her marriage. "
There might be some exceptional circumstances.
dhirender sharma
(Querist) 06 June 2017
I really appreciate your inputs which you all have provided for making the case more clear.
Guest
(Expert) 07 June 2017
Thanks for appreciation.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 07 June 2017
nothing to add more.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 07 June 2017
I appreciate your post:
"inputs which you all have provided for making the case more clear."
The inputs posted later certainly make the matter and perspectives, more clear.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 07 June 2017
Without any hesitation discuss the matter in person with a local very able senior counsel of unshakable repute and integrity specializing in Family Matters.
Future and life of Son of your family is involved.
It is good that you are looking at even his employment and career.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 07 June 2017
Good to see the Thanks and appreciation for Experts.
