Son getting married to unknown girl.
Meghana1960
(Querist) 12 November 2017
This query is : Resolved
Hi, my son is educated and earning good, he has booked flat for himself, he is going to do intercast marriage, girlfriend is educated but not working, looks lazy and extravgent. We r happy for them, but being only child my son is heir to ancestral property and family wealth, if everything goes fine ,good but what if they get divorced, she is interested in staying with us in our bungalow, but her mother's intention doesn't look good and shows too much interest in our financial matters, how can we keep our son safe, if marriage does not work out ?
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 12 November 2017
Although there is no legal provision in India with regard to Pre-nuptial agreement between the couple entering into matrimonial relationship, but its is highly recommended that in order to safeguard the property of the parties and prevent opposite party claiming any share in the property or huge sum of alimony or financial claim in case the marriage fails for some reason I will recommend that your son should go in for such agreement with the girl he wants to marry, let parents of both side too witness this agreement. The terms and conditions with regard to giving and taking of gifts at the time of marriage should also be mentioned in clear terms so that any dispute with regard to dowry and istridhan may not come if the marriage fails for some other reason and false criminal complaints being filed by wife side to extract huge sum of money from the husband side.
The agreement of this type can be duly registered and copy of the same both parties keep
Guest
(Expert) 12 November 2017
Agree with Expert...................................................
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 12 November 2017
Agree with the expert Vijay Raj Majajan.
Guest
(Expert) 12 November 2017
Ms. Meghana,
Law does not have any pre marriage remedy for you or your son. Furture is always uncertain Think about today.
In fact., yours is neither a legal problem, nor can be linked to the ancestral property, nor the stage of divorce, when no marriage has taken place. It is a vague query in the present scenario.
Almost every girl is unknown to the family of the bridegroom before marriage.
With the life's experience of both of you, it is yours and your husband's job to discuss the pros & cons of the proposed marriage. But, if your son still gets inclined to marry his chosen girl, you can't expect to change the destiny of the couple in any way. If divorce has to happen, you can't avert that. Let them enjoy life at least till the situation of divorce arises.
You would not be able to brainwash your son, rather would get your image tarnished before you would be daughter in law. She would however be fully capable to make brainwash of your son due to likely very close contacts with him in privacy. Rather by showing undue concerned you would be inviting troubles yourself in the shape of DV & Dowry cases..
So, why worry and unduly get downgraded in the eyes of your son and the daughter in law with ultimate result of spoiling your own future life particularly during your old age?
Welcome her, but with necessary cautions.
Guest
(Expert) 12 November 2017
I am puzzled. Should I call Mr. Dhingra's advice as a philosophical advice, legal advice, realistic advice or a practical advice?
Guest
(Expert) 12 November 2017
Mr. Jigyasu,
Today's married life, itself, has been proving to be a puzzle for anyone and everyone.
So, not only you, anyone and everyone can assume my suggestion in anyway, he likes.
Of course, due to the provisions of law and their likely misuse any time by girl's side, the boy and his family members should always be ready to face any consequence of such present day marriage. That can prove to be a lottery for the boy's side or a lootery by the other side.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 12 November 2017
JIGYASU - Legal analyst
Is it the need of query for which you are puzzled.
Whether your advice is philosophical advice, legal advice, realistic advice or a practical advice or just an attempt posted to increase your numbers of replies?.
Guest
(Expert) 12 November 2017
@ Rajendra K Goyal,
Your assumption aptly applies on yourself, as you jumped in the fray uninvited and undesirably just to add one frivolous post at your credit, as of playing a number game, while my query was never addressed to you. Do you really lack commonsense to understand that the query was addressed to some other expert or you feel jealousy with him?
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 13 November 2017
Some Self-glorified ignorantly ARROGANT experts are in the habit of giving lectures having vested interests rather to advice in positive way/ contribute for the query.
Guest
(Expert) 13 November 2017
With irrelevant posts, Mr. Rajendra K Goyal is making sure to get the LCI site closed ASAP.
