divorce
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Anonymous
(Querist) 12 January 2011
This query is : Resolved
I am a doctor by proffession, married to a merchant navy man. it was an arranged marriage..my registry marriage was done in my fathers house in 1st july, 2009. i went to my in laws house often after that, and had a corial and warm relation with them(both inlaws & husband).....but didnot stay there for days, as social marriage was not done by that time.so i stayed in my fathers house..... my social marriage was done on july 2010..... my husband does a contractual job and stays out of house for 3-4 months.... after my social marriage, my inlaws and husband continuously pressurised me to act according to what they would tell me to, i didnot have the rights to follow my will , often there were verbal abuse and they threatened me that they will file divorce if i dont listen to them. I HAVE SAVED ALL THOSE SMS, my husband threatned to divorce me..out of resentmnt i said that i will commit suicide, they did a GDE. against that....Minor disagreements with my husband and inlaws resulted in that kind of threat for me, harrassing my elderly parents.. i stayed separate with my husbands for 3-4 mnths away from my inlaws, with hopes that things will settle, but it didnt..... after i came back to my inlaws house, they indirectly put their dowry demands upon me and my husband also joined....on last week of october my inlaws threatened me not to come to their house, bcause my husband was preparing for his promotion exams. my husband and inlaws avoided me and didnt answer my phone calls...... i did a DE in local PS, as i think i was unnecessarily prevented to go to that house.... my father accompanied me to their house and my husband and inlaws did a lot of shouting and forced me to to succumb to their demands, which included i should not kep contacts with my parents, i should not demand the gold ornaments that i got as gifts in my marriage and i should have no say over my inlaws. i recorded the full conversation.. ON 20TH OF DECEMBER ONCE AGAIN THEY PUT RESTRICTIONS on my entry to that house. i went alone despite their permission on 23rd and as i went there, they called their neighbours and tried to prevent my entry....... i went to the local PS, and th oc called both our parents and councelled us, he kind of forced my husband to take me to that house. WE DIDNOT HOWEVER LAUNCHED ANY FRESH GDE that day, with good hope that probably, matters will settle....... but it hasnt...i stay in my inlaws house .and talk to them very often.i try to be amicable with them. but now my husband is forcing me for .
1. not coming to that house, till he can arrange for alternative accomodation. which may take months and years....
2.trying to dump me and asking me to go for a mutual divorce.and threatening to go for one sided divorce.......
3.planning to go to a very long trip and threatening not to keep any contacts with me
4. talking and seeking help from his. lawyers on that ground, that i might make false charges( like rape/ murder / poisoning them) against his parents.and that i may be prevented by law to enter that house.... but i dont want to terminate this marriage on social grounds..........
NOW MY QUEREIES ARE--------
1. whether i should stay in my inlaws house in his absence?
2. whether i can be prevented by law in favour of inlaws to stay in that house in his absence.
3. i heard that house in in my father in laws name, can he push me out of that house, when my husband is away, can i not be protected by any laws.
4. can he get one sided divorce against me on above stated grounds?
5.what should be my immediate legal protection......
PLEASE HELP
Uma parameswaran
(Expert) 12 January 2011
1. Yes.
2. No
3. It is your matrimonial home.They could not simply push you outside.
4. No
5. You can file under domestic violence Act before protection officer for immediate remedy to stay back in the husband's house.
Sachin Bhatia
(Expert) 18 January 2011
1) Yes you should stay in your inlaws house in his absence.
2) No.
3) They can not push you out from your matriminial home.
4)File a petition under domectic violence Act.
G. ARAVINTHAN
(Expert) 18 January 2011
1. You can stay in matrimonial home and have right to do
2. No one can object you to stay in matrimonial home
3. property may be in his name. but you have residence there
4. no court can grant divorce without hearing other side
5. you can approach a lawyer and file application under Domestic violence Act
