Divorce
Sandeep Naik
(Querist) 08 June 2011
This query is : Resolved
I am 43 years and wife is 38 years old. We have a son of 13 years old. My wife neither has interest in sex nor physically ability to perform sex. Initially during sex I realized that she is not responding and there is no fun in having sex. My feeling that time was I am experiencing sex with male body. But due to family pressure I could not speak out this and I have tolerated for years as I had not any alternative. After marriage (within one year) we had a child and thereafter she could not birth any child. I didn’t realize (due to my young age) that she is not able to birth any child. But now I understand she seems to have medical problem in her physic. Due to continuous desertion, I am finding difficult to do my routine work. I do not go outside to have sex. Since there is no any benefit of having sex, I am not doing any sex but she does not have any problem / objection on this issue. She is comfortably living her life as routine. In her family hierarchy, her one elder sister does not have any child and second elder sister is not married due to medical problem. This was hidden from me in marriage.
I discussed this with my advocate friend and they have suggested to consult Doctor (Gynecologist) to find medical problem.
I tried to consult Doctor, (gynecologist) to find fault technically, he advised me that this does not come under his purview of work and I should go to Psychiatrics. I have visited to renowned Psychiatrics (M.D.), he said, I should consult to Gynecologist. Even if he (psychiatrics) examines to my spouse he will not give any certificate or opinion, obviously it is going to be consider in the Court. If he will give any certificate / opinion he said he will have to appear in the Court for witness.
I have following question :
If I have to take divorce what should I do?
Who will decide & certify that she has medical problem ?
If divorce is agreed by court, I wish to have child custody ?
How to prevent from her & her family from filing cases / complaints.
(I have experienced that my wife and her parents are cruel nature person. I do not have family support from my side. They will try to take disadvantage of it and file false cases / complaints against me. Presently I do not have any case / complaint filed).
Kindly reply my question on : vm_9967@yahoo.com
Guest
(Expert) 08 June 2011
you can not challenge her that she is physically unfit for the birth of the child even you can also come into the doubt that whether you are capable of giving the child to your wife means you are sexually fit or not. if it comes into the court than wife itself can or demand for the divorce and if you want the divorce than you have to maintain your wife and also to your son and if the custody is given to you of your son than only to your wife. in this case i suggest you to go to the psychiatrist or the sex specialist to also get cheked your self before going to the court
PALNITKAR V.V.
(Expert) 08 June 2011
You already have one child. Assuming that your wife can not give you another child, that is hardly a ground for divorce. Similarly, you can not have divorce on the ground that you can not enjoy sex with wife. In fact, it appears that you should introspect and try to cohabit happily. There doesnt appear any fault on the side of wife.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 09 June 2011
WHY not to presume that you are over sexy comparing of your wife.
I mean its a medical and not a legal matter.some men ate hot comparing that there wife are frigid and am a victim too,i condemn you to have divorce on this ground alone.
DO NOT BE HEARTSHE MUST HAVE A REASON FOR AVERSION TO SEX
