Priyanka
Priyanka87
(Querist) 12 July 2015
This query is : Resolved
Sir/ma'am,
I'm a BE graduate. Ours is a love com arranged marriage. Married in 2009. My husband is adopted from his present moms sister. He is very caring and loving husband until his parents involvement. His parents didn't want me to work and earn. They are behind my dads properties. I was told rather demanded to get my share of the property registered on my name on very third day after my marriage by his mother,I was literally shocked to here this from her and Never expected to hear something like that. Slowly it continued with the jewellery that my parents gave me with love stating that the jewelleries are in small size(I don't like heavy jewellery and bought smells ones)and tortured me and my parents mentally directly and from my husband as well. They even made my husband throw all the jewellery on my parents face. She even got me checked with doctor for not conceiving in 10days after my marriage once and in third month once,she even insisted my mom to get me checked one,totally thrice.
In 2011 when I was 9 months pregnant my husband dropped me at my parents home for delivery purpose. Till that day my husband never raised any topic on what my parents are gonna give to baby to be born. But a week after that they forced my husband to ask me for gold hip chain even before knowing the baby is going to be is a boy or girl(he told that is going to be prestige issue for his parents). His mom told me that she is not able to lift her head before her relatives coz my parents didn't present me any gold jewellay on my baby shower.FIL and MIL used to torture me by comparing with others DIL's on what they got from their parents house. I took care of them well when MIL and FIL under went cataract and bypass sugary respectively. They don't want me to go to my parents home or send my son or see any relatives.
When ever we had a fight I used to tell his parents thinking that they will solve the issue but every time they told me that my husband will find another girl or he will marry another girl. Once Post delivery when he abused me physically in their assistance,I left to my parents home with my 5months old baby for 25days,but I returned back when I heard they are trying to spoil my husbands mind for divorce,but I was thrown out of their house by taking my baby from my hand and was a big panchayat held where they promised that will not repeat this.
Another time when i got my menses and so told them to get food from outside(as I'll not be able to do anything during that time) and went to take rest seeing my husbands smiling face...1 hr after that my husband came banging the door telling that who will do the rest of the work if I sleep like that and being married for 5 years he knew my situation very well and I asked the same and argument broke and he abused me verbally and physically where his parents didn't stop him from doing so,started reminding him things happened earlier and raised his ego. In that incident my orbit bone got fractured where I couldn't expose my eye to heat and light and doctors told me surgery is a must which was a major one. Even after that I stayed with him for 24 days pre surgery,in a hope that he will change some day and realise the fact. His parents didn't even call me or enquire on how I was feeling.But my weakness(love towards him)made them think that I can't do anything even if I die in their hands.i even requested him to come for Counseling but his dad decided on his behalf and shouted at me telling that my husband will not go with me for Counseling and I can leave the house,they even told that they will not get the surgery done,so told my parents who got my surgery done and took me home with them. Filed MLC from hospital and FIR with ipc sections 498a and DV(I even have voice recording of his mom asking my dad for property on her sons name)If I leave him for some time they will file for divorce,if I stay with him they will torture me more from him(their influence is too much between us,otherwise he is the best dad and best husband),finding no other option filed FIR. We are not expecting any maintenance or compensation from him. Me and my 4yr old son want to live with him with the best counseling and reunite with him please suggest.
Guest
(Expert) 12 July 2015
Better be Precise in your Query Please.Yours is an essay.
Priyanka87
(Querist) 12 July 2015
Thank you so much for the reply sir. My husband is very caring and loving. He is adopted child.his parents always created problems between us they can't tolerate seeing us happy. My husband abused me physically no of times one their words influence,finally situation worsen and went till surgery.if I live with him,his parents torture me more thinking that I'm not doing anything after all these and if I leave to my parents house they will spoil his mind for divorce(as I heard this happening earlier).tried to take him for counseling but his dad didn't allow him. Finding no other option filed FIR u/s 498a(in my long message explained why I was forced to take legal step) and dv.chargesheet not yet prepared and we are not expecting any money from him in any from expect to reunite with him with a better counseling.plese help me.
Guest
(Expert) 12 July 2015
In all the Family disputes the ultimate sufferer would be only the child.You have already filed a case and let it go on.As you said do not agree or sign any papers for divorce so that legally he can not conduct second marriage.If possible seek the help of Elders whom he also respects for a solution.Other wise take care of your Child and Time is the Only Remedy and Waite.Mean time do not have any Quarrels which would further provoke him.
Priyanka87
(Querist) 12 July 2015
Many panchayat a took place earlier,his parents having big mouths instead of sorting out the issue they always complain on me and never let me open my mouth and explain problem. MIL tells me she was also abused by her husband physically and so I shouldn't escape from harassment so I should also suffer it.they can't tolerate if my husband plays with our son or give bath to him.i even have voice recording of his mom asking for property on my husbands name.some one other than our families should be helpful to make him understand him.
Guest
(Expert) 12 July 2015
Only your Patience could fetch you the Good Result.
Priyanka87
(Querist) 12 July 2015
She doesn't behave like a responsible women at all.she uses all the filthy language and brings all personal matters(can't be mentioned)in front of all the elderly people,where I'll be so ashamed.i never knew a female can speak all this until I experienced from her
Priyanka87
(Querist) 12 July 2015
She doesn't behave like a responsible women at all.she uses all the filthy language and brings all personal matters(can't be mentioned)in front of all the elderly people,where I'll be so ashamed.i never knew a female can speak all this until I experienced from her. And thank you so much for the help sir.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 13 July 2015
Whether your husband is supportive, caring and helping you and your cause? If so, request and persuade him to live separately from your MIL.
Can you reconcile with your MIL & FIL with your personal intelligence for brining a harmonious atmosphere?
Priyanka87
(Querist) 14 July 2015
Sir,My husband being adopted can't expect him to leave his parents...please help me with any alternative to save my marriage through court.
Guest
(Expert) 14 July 2015
Ms Priyanka,
Your own behaviour can save your marriage. Adapt yourself and start tender care of his adoptive parents to win their trust and faith. Legal recourse can only spoil your marriage by creating further bitterness in relations.
Priyanka87
(Querist) 14 July 2015
Sir,being a female everybody told the same thing all these years and I even followed their advice,that made them torture me more and forced me to take this step today. for every simple thing they(in laws) want divorce,I didn't conceive before 3 months after my marriage so they want divorce,I didn't know cooking in the beginning so they want divorce and they were litteraly scaring me with that word.I don't understand why these type of people should get their son married to put someone like me and my son in deep pain.sir,please tell me if I can compromise through court in the presence of honorable judge,coz I can't hear this word divorce anymore,I'm so madly depressed.
Priyanka87
(Querist) 14 July 2015
Sir,I tried to take counceling for both of us from women cell as well but his parents with the help of an advocate didn't let him come there.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 16 July 2015
If what you stated is to be taken as true, it is really pathetic. There are plenty of such victims who suffer silently and only a few surface to tell their woes to the world like you, however there are 90% of women who come with false narrations seeking advises/suggestions to wreak vengeance on their husbands and his relatives to satisfy their ego or pride/vanity.
Well since you have already approached police with a complaint under section 498a and dowry prohibition act besides a complaint under DV act, you may cling to the cases and watch the development and outcome.
Priyanka87
(Querist) 16 July 2015
Thanks experts for all your valuable suggestions. Everyone want a wife and husband to be together solving their issues,on this basis experts suggested me to solve the problem if any chance possible! But After receiving MLC PC contacted me and asked details of my husband which I gave him and told them not to take any action against them and we are only trying for counseling and compromise through police station and no intention to file FIR,but the police went against my request,contacted them and were bribed by them(got to know from known sources) and When my complaint(rather my problem in paper)was handed over to CI,he without even going through it and just saw my hurt pics and came to conclusion that mistake was on my part and so was abused that badly....My hope of reunion with husband shattered and I felt so helpless filed FIR sir. Hope I get justice through court and live life happily.no intention of revenge against him.
