With before marriage chats husband saying he will prove her charact
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
This query is : Resolved
my husband having my chats with guys during college days i.e. 4 years back from my marriage. these chats were done as a time pass and they were done by my friends also but from my email id..are they valid proof? is chats before marriage valid proof to get him divorce as i don't want him to divorce. i have already told him about the chats and given password of my gmail account but now he is harassing me and blackmailing me to give him divorce or he will prove me characterless. he even taken that chats printouts and showing them publically and saying that his wife is characterless. how to defend him???? help me..
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 July 2013
why do you save your conversation history ? have tou not heard of delete function .
anyhow all these incidents have occurred before marriage . does he have any evidence after marriage .
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
No after marriage i haven't done any chatting
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
before marriage chats are valid or not?? please help me... as he is threatening me that if i don;t give him divorce he will prove me characterless.... plzzzz help.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
Plzzzzzzz sir reply.....
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
also i have already deleted the chat history but i don't know how he get those chats printouts.. please ajay sir reply...
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 21 July 2013
After all do those chats contain to prove yourself characterless.In addition they are pre marriage chats not post marriage.You do not need to worry too much.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 July 2013
it merely shows you have friendly nature . it dosent prove you are characterless .
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 21 July 2013
Prior to marriage history has nothing to do with the post marriage life and thus it cannot become the ground for the divorce. Your husband cannot defame you as he is doin so you can also file a complaint for defamation against him.
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
If you dont agree for divorce, he will try to prove you are character less. If you file defamation case, again he will try to prove same as defence. Either way, if you dont agree to him, he will do acts againsts your reputation. Try to convince him through elders. If he does not listen, its better you make up your mind for divorce than living with a man who is like a hanging sword on your head.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
Thank you sir... but he is showing these in women cell and publically and in few days i have been called at women cell there how to defend him..
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
Thats why i said, have a meeting with him through elders. Try to convince him.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
Yes Mam you are right but as a indian girl i don't want divorce also mam his family harassing me from first day of my marriage and now saying give divorce and said they are saying they just done marriage just for money. how can i leave them as such who spoiled my life???
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 July 2013
you say that your husband is harassing you from first day of marriage . why do you want to stay with man who has made your life miserable ? move on in life . take divorce by mutual consent .
now days divorces are becoming increasingly common . you will find a better man . you can remarry again .
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
Confucius said if you want to take revenge on someone, you have to dig two graves. One for yourself and one for that other.
For teaching him a lesson, you will run to court and waste your time and money. Just see if there is any hope in the relation left. If it is left, then try to save it. Or else all will be a futile fight.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
they are not ready to sit in public because they know they are wrong. we have tried many times but whenever meeting is set they said she is characterless and we don't want to sit and cancel the meeting... 2-3 times they even tried to kill me... this marriage proposal was through my mother in-law's relative who further relative of my mother so everytime due to family respect i haven't taken step.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 July 2013
we have advised you at length . it is your call now
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
You want relief also. You don't want to divorce him also. You say you are harassed also. They are repeatedly making allegations against your character. If these allegations are false, then put an end to this relation than dragging. They will keep talking ill of you and spoil your future life too.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
Yes ajay sir, they are harassing me from the first day of my marriage i.e. when doli enters the house my sister in-law and mother in-law says that they have marriage for money and my husband didn't said anything to them. my husband is puppet of my mother in-law and sister in-law.
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
They will suffer for their bad deeds. Why you spoil your life with such people.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
even brother in-law, sister in law mother inlaw and husband filling 2 false complaint against us.. in all those we prove them wrong as they were wrong like husband said i have taken my jewellery to home but when i come to home, come by getting checked my bag from police...
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
Cudos to Indian woman and her patience... Many men in the forum simply blame woman and pose themselves as sufferers.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 21 July 2013
U STATED "2-3 times they even tried to kill me..."
SO LODGE POLICE COMPLAIN OF THREAT TO KILL + DEFAMATION+ CRUELTY
It is better you Divorce him. Life is unhappy and unsafe with him. He is no more ur friend, he is enemy. He discovered it after ur marriage, wh he can't digest,and vomiting out.
Prudent persons cut off such relationship.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
mam my parents blindly trusted them and handed over money in cash for making my jewellery and clothes but they haven't made anything and given everything to my sister in-law. i still didn't said anything.. i just want my husband. but i never knew that husband can do this to her wife although he knows that i was the only for him whenever he was under problem.. its not even 1 year of marriage.. and my sister in law who is 14 years older to me i also treated her as my mother but she always says on his brother only she has right and not you. we married him to you just for the sake of marriage and money. now give him divorce and forget about the money you have given otherwise they will prove me characterless and also added that she has thrown her husband' brother wife by making allegations on her character.
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
Then do one thing. Let them go to court and try to prove all that. Till then be cool. Hire a good advocate on your side. As their case is false, your husband may realise his mistake after he runs around the court premises.
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
i tried to lodge compliant but they forcefully snatched it from me and gripped my neck tightly. my in laws even didn't allow me to contact my parents they even don't allow my parents to come to their house and says put money in accounts only. now i'm at my home after my husband and in-laws said that they will kill me and left the house. thereafter i called police but he ran and didn't come and lodge false compalint against me that i have taken jewellery to my home.. although i have proven him wrong as when i returned to my home i called police to check my bags and police have given in written that she was having nothing while returning to home.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 21 July 2013
repeated at http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/With-before-marriage-chats-husband-saying-he-will-prove-her-charact-408956.asp#.UevbWKzQzmk
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
mam as we have given money in cash so they are saying that we haven't given money although we have given them money in presence of vichola. is it ok to defend them if vichola in court says that we have given them money... plzzz reply
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 21 July 2013
If there are witnesses to prove this fact, that will help your case.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 July 2013
madam
it is advisable you go and meet a local lawyer . have a long conference with him . tell your whole story . go by his advise
Guest
(Querist) 21 July 2013
Yes sir thank you.... i talked to lawyer he says as case is at women cell so firstly see what he says at women cell... but whenever women cell in-charge ask for what you want.. he ask for counselling and neither says he want me to take back nor he says that he don't want me to take back... but when they allow to talk alone for sometime there he says that his sister,sister's and mother don't want to continue this relation so i don't want.. now waiting what he will say tomorrow..
