Deserted by wife
Sanam
(Querist) 15 September 2013
This query is : Resolved
Respected sir,
I was married in April 2012. I had to move to Siliguri-west bengal in November 2012 for my job, earlier I was working in Himachal Pradesh. She stayed with me till March 2013 at Siliguri and in March, she went to her parent's for giving the exam. I accompanied her till Delhi but could not leave her to Shimla as there was urgent company meeting. After the meeting I went to take her with me but she did not come back, my mother and sister were with me that time. Her parents told that they will send after 3-4 days. I had to come back for the job. My parents repeatedly went to her parents home but she denied even her parents were disrespecting and threatening to go for a police case even they did not offered water to my mother. I continuously called her and her parent's but they were not talking even they used to switch off their mobiles even they did not replied to any of messages. I sent messages on facebook, which she checks but never replies. I went again with my parents and family last month but they all were fighting and disrespecting everyone. She said that what ever times I try but she will not come back to me. When she did not pick my calls, then I wrote letters so she can come back as it was advised by one of my friend to write letters if she is not taking phone calls.
When she went to her parents for exam, she was pregnant and is expected to deliver the child next month. In January 2013, my mother and sister visited me at Siliguri and she disrespected her by denying to give any dinner and went to bedroom. I did not spoke anything in front of mother and tried to make things better. When my mother went back, I discussed the thing and asked why she behaved like that she abused by mother and even tore my shirt and rubbed her nails over my chest and face and after that I tried to stop her as she was pregnant, same night she slipped in bath room. She was complaining for head ache and I took her to hospital as she is pregnant. There she was kept into observations and was relieved next morning. Everything went normal and we were living happily before she went to her parents in March 2013. Even she took all the medical reports and Brain scan taken by doctors and I did not knew this.
When we came to Siliguri, I was searching for a house to live, she was staying in the Hotel which we took. On the day I took the flat and we bought house holdings and entered the house, she went angry just on the thing that I said that I want a driver(her father works as driver in a govt deptt) even she threw her CHUDAA(worn my newly married) in the dustbin and yelled that she will sell off her body to have the money to go back to her parents. I was shocked and hold her mouth to stop her shouting.It was known to me later when I spoke to her relatives to help me on the issues that she had some mental problem and was treated with tantriks for three years, even she did her education through correspondence metric on-wards. I tried my level best to keep her mood fine, I regularly took her to watch movies, visit to restaurants etc. But she got very angry and started shouting over very small things.
Now her parents are showing those reports to everyone and telling that it was my fault and I hit her.
I have tried my best to bring her back and she is not at all interested to come back to me or to my parents. My wife has given graduations final year exams and has done a teacher's training course. Her family thinks she is well qualified but cannot get a very good earning job.
I had brought a piece of land worth 7.5 lacs(in papers) on her name just 10-12 days back to marriage. My salary is Rs 26000 and work in a private company. I am regularly putting Rs 2000-3000 in her account. I have to pay back the loans taken by my parents(400000) and also have to pay the person from whom the land was brought, I am paying him 5000-10000 per month(amount left is 140000). Also I have to take care of my sister's education and her marriage.
The relation has gone very bad and I want to get a suggestion where my parents and my would be child are least affected and I can move ahead in life.
Thanks and regards
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 15 September 2013
First thing, stop paying her any money as she left your house at her own will.
Second thing, why did you purchase the property in her name. Get it transferred to your own name or stop paying bank loan. They will themselves sell it.
Hire a good advocate and issue a strong notice to her.
Wait and watch for some time.
If she is mentally disturbed, try to get back all evidence about it.
Approach court for divorce if nothing works.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 15 September 2013
query too long and thus consult lawyer personally.
Sanam
(Querist) 15 September 2013
Sir, I want to know can I go for restoration of conjugal rights. What if she produces the reports against me?
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 15 September 2013
If you want to continue in the marriage, then you can file RCR case. If she produces the reports, face it in the court. You can get Medical evidence in support of your case. It will prove all. It is not easy for them to prove false stories in the court.
Sanam
(Querist) 15 September 2013
Thanks a lot. Should I file RTR case where I am working or in my home district. I do not want to parents to suffer. They already have suffered a lot.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 15 September 2013
Sir, I want to know can I go for restoration of conjugal rights.
yes you can.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 16 September 2013
You may file RCR case at Siliguri. Stop sending money to her and possibly you may have to face some cases from her once you start moving on legal path.
