Want to bring my wife back
somesh
(Querist) 02 July 2013
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sirs / Madams
Earlier i was having a problem that my wife is not ready to come back to me, just 02 months back my wife called me and confessed that she was pressurized by her mother with some relatives to divorce me.
i visited her parents house sort out this matter and take her back but my MIL challenged me that i will see how you dare to take my daughter against my permission and i accepted the challenge that i will take her away and you cant do anything and came back as she was under her mothers pressure.
now situation is that my wife calls me everyday asking me to take her away as early as possible as her mom is fighting with her everyday to divorce me. My parents & relatives are ready to take her back on condition that her parents should call us to take her away, which is not at all on card.
Even i am eager to bring her back as i cant tolerate her crying over fone call.
Please advise What should i do to bring her back as i do not want to take this matter legally.
Adv Archana Deshmukh
(Expert) 02 July 2013
Simply go to her home and bring her back, why you are waiting for formalities from her parents when your wife is ready to come back to you? Talk to her on phone and decide the date and time when you will be going to her house and ask her to be ready with her luggage. Then go to her home and bring her back.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 02 July 2013
agree with expert Archana.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 02 July 2013
Adv Archana has solved your problem so simply .what else you need now?just hurry up
and move.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 03 July 2013
If you stop yourself under the gab of your parents then what is the difference between you and your wife? Your wife was also compelled by her mother which created such situation and now you are doing similar mistake.
Go to your in-laws house and bring your wife back to your home and lead and happy married life.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 04 July 2013
Agreed with the advice of Ms.Archana & Mr.Rajkumar makkad. When you wish to live with your wife, you should wait for the formalities to be completed either side.
somesh
(Querist) 04 July 2013
Dear Experts
Thank you very much for your valuable advice now i am very much confident about my decision.
But somewhere in my mind I have a query whether her parents reserve any right to go legally against me & my family once i bring my wife back??
What if my MIL start pressurizing my wife to do all kind of tantrums at my place to hamper our routine?
Actually i want to keep my wife away from her parents because usko behekana easy hai.
plz advice some strategy as in my family everybody stays happily and i have never observed such kind of situation in my family and relatives ever.
Thanks once again
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 04 July 2013
Your parents in law legally can do nothing if your wife and you have god understanding and mutual trust. Family life is based upon mutual understanding, immense love and heavy trust over each other. This is the only secret and formula for a successful marriaed life.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 04 July 2013
your wifewants to stay with you . it is your case that she keeps on crying on the phone and wants to stay with you as your wife . once she is free from her mother clutches she would be a fool to file any case aginst you under her mother instructions .
if you are so petrified of your in laws take a job in some other city or go abroad with your wife
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 04 July 2013
First step - you bring your wife to your place.
Second - you and your family members should instill confidence in her that she is more safe in your home.
Third - do not put much restrictions on your wife about talking to her parents. After all they are the parents of your wife. They should also feel confidence that their daughter is in safe hands.
Fourth - If they still interfere in your life and create problem, your wife should severely warn them not to interfere in your family affairs.
Fourth - If you are staying nearby, better you change your place so that frequent access will not be available to them.
Fifth - ask your wife to in front of the family members. But you people also should not interfere for small issues. If you allow your wife to talk her parents keeping all you away, there is a chance for them to create problem. Generally no parents of a girl will spoil the happy life of their daughter. The problem might be they must be having too much attachment and they feel that their daughter will not be safe in your hands.
Sixth - Time will solve all the problem. Shed the ego, show love to everybody irrespective of their behaviour. Things will definitely change.
somesh
(Querist) 26 July 2013
as discussed i went to my inlaws to bring my wife back.
when i went there they kept condition that we have searched a job for you in haryana near their house and you have to join it then only they will allow me to take her away.
i simply denied saying i am a businessman in mumbai why should i shut my business to do a job for you? they said we want you to take care of our children (i.e. my brother & sister in laws) then i asked them to send in your children's to mumbai i ll take better care then you do.
Later on they left this condition and asked me to stay at their place for 10 to 15 days, but i was having my return ticket with me so i requested that i will come back and stay with you as much day you want but this time please excuse me. later i told them that i can stay a day with you and next day i ll take my wife with me and they agreed.
next day when we were about to leave her mom denied that they will not allow me to take my wife (she was ready with her bag to come with me) my MIL told the girl that if she goes with me she will finish herself due to which even she stayed with her mom and i left.
Her father was speechless on this matter as he is not allowed to interfere in house matter only her mom will decide what is to be done.
So please advice me what should i do now as i totally depressed and unable to take any decision as i don't know whether my wife will stand by me or not.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 September 2013
Facts are scattered on several threads :-
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/want-to-save-our-marriage-411886.asp#.UitCqX_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/laws-for-harassed-husbands-387421.asp#.UitCt3_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/want-to-bring-my-wife-back-410526.asp#.UitCr3_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/want-to-bring-my-wife-back-403956.asp#.UitCs3_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/planning-to-file-rcr-415581.asp#.UitCpH_Qzmk
It would have been in your interest of have all facts in one place so that the experts do not have to spy around for facts of the case and you get complete advise at one thread.
You have got enough advise if you really intend to save marriage then go ahead.
