Why don't divorced persons agree to send me their marriage biodata?
Youth
(Querist) 12 March 2017
This query is : Resolved
I am a divorcee ,looking forward to remarry.
I faced a lot of cruelty,cheating and desertion from spouse.My spouse had also lied about his education.
Hence I want to be very careful this time while selecting a partner.
I have put up my marriage profile on many websites and get many offers also.
However online profiles only give a general idea about a person's family,education and job.For example peope here usually do not name the company they work for,because they want to hide their information from public.This is fully understandable.
When people approach me,my family asks the person to send his marriage biodata with full details so that we decide to only meet those persons whose details suit us.Even we are willing to send them my detailed biodata if they need it.
However the person insists he will not send any biodata and only wants to meet me.He says talking and understandng is more important.
I explain that if biodata details are acceptable to us,we will surely spend adequte time together so that we get to know each other.It makes no sense to talk to person for 3-4 months on phone and by meeting him personally(whose details are still unknown) and later on discovering that he was lying either about his job or education because he had not shared his biodata .
Almost every boy i meet refuses to send his biodata but wants to meet me.He says he wll reveal details orally on meeting.But i don't trust oral claims,because anyone can lie about his age,family and other things.
When a biodata is sent through email,even though one can lie in that too,but people may take it seriously because they are sending it through their personal mail account which only they can access.So I trust this system more than anything else.
What should i do with such arrogant people who want to meet without sharing their wrtten information?
Guest
(Expert) 12 March 2017
Ignoring them is good.Just an year back the Parents of a Girl had chosen a bridegroom from US thro internet and got their daughter married to him lavishly.When the girl went to US with him she was shocked to find a Foreign Lady claiming to be his wife with children and husband was insisting the Indian Girl the Wife to get adjusted and Live together.With great difficulty she came back to India.Better Not to believe on Internet Offers Or even Brokers.Better choose some one thro trust worthy People and have a good due diligence done before you could decide.You were already disappointed once so be Very Careful
Guest
(Expert) 12 March 2017
Your question is quite vague, as you asked, "What should i do with such arrogant people who want to meet without sharing their written information?"
By the way, why do you want to do anything with those persons, who do not want to share their biodata? Is there any compulsion for you to meet such persons. Just avoid them.
Guest
(Expert) 12 March 2017
Madam RK Goyal you are a Part of the Fraudelent Company Gemmia Oil Tech Ltd which had Cheated the Public to the tune of Rs 900 Crores Instead of being Anonymous for the Past 5 years why dont you Post your Profile
Youth
(Querist) 12 March 2017
@dhingra ji,
sir i hardly meet persons who are willing to send me their biodatas.
95% of them are like that.
i dont know for how long this will continue.
i am going past my age and my parents too are fed up of me living here!
Guest
(Expert) 12 March 2017
Thers is No age limit for mind always take life in a Positive way
Ms.Usha Kapoor
(Expert) 13 March 2017
Agree with Raj Kumar and Dhingra JI.
Guest
(Expert) 13 March 2017
Simply add a sentence in capital words in your online profile, like, "Please note, no request for meeting will be entertained without prior sharing of your biodata."
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 13 March 2017
In order to find a suitable match for you, shift your focus on Matrimonial site(s) and not on Lawyer's Club of India.
I did not find any legal issue involved in the story, hence unable to form an opinion and advise.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 March 2017
It would be better if the expert would have posted / contributed for the thread rather to go on posting just to satisfy his ego / irritation / frustration.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 March 2017
It would be better if the expert would have posted / contributed for the thread rather to go on posting just to satisfy his ego / irritation / frustration.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 March 2017
In many threads expert used Mrs/Mr/Ms/Child before addressing me, please use Mr. before my name.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 March 2017
Any comments on experts by other experts is a good habit nor requirement of the thread to comment on others.
Try to be sober.
Guest
(Expert) 16 March 2017
Agreed with Madam RK Goyal
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 16 March 2017
Experts should abstain commenting on other experts. Difference of opinion can be there, decorum need to be maintained.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 16 March 2017
Any vague / unwarranted / irrelevant / posts should be avoided.
Neither it is a good habit nor requirement of the thread..
Experts should try to be sober.
