Not sure if it is family or criminal
Akshi
(Querist) 21 October 2012
This query is : Resolved
Hi,
Its been two years now. A married man looped me into relationship with him saying that he has no relationship with his wife and he would shortly initiate a divorce with her. I had become very vulnerable due to emotional involvement and just went ahead with him without putting any terms and conditions. To make me believe, this guy married me in a temple as well.
Slowly,as time passed, I started realising that this man is lyeing to me and is cheating on me while he is having a normal relationship with his wife. I was hurt and I started my efforts to know more truth. However, this guy manipulated everything and ensured me that we will be together shortly.
He had been from a sublime background and was seeking progress in life. I pushed his profile in the company I was working. He got a job at higher grade and a handsome salary. He has faked his experience here too.
However, after he got this job, his commitments went suddenly off. He abused me and hit me. He insulted me and broke away.
I have many proofs of our relationship including marriage certificate from the temple where we got married, pics and videos of times spent together.
I have been abused and cheated for the good faith in whatever he said. I have been living in a nightmare. Everyday, I feel guilty of having believed in him and how he used me, abused me and then dumped me.
Please advise if I can file a case of abuse/harassment/ any other case against him
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 21 October 2012
Well though your case history is really sad , I too some extent held you responsible for this fiasco.
Getting into a relationship with a married man is itself a immoral and bad decision.
What he has done is emotionally wrecking for you but unfortunately the law could not give any proper remedy.
However of you could prove that he intentionally cheated you to have sex on false promise of marriage then case of rape may be initiated against him.
Akshi
(Querist) 21 October 2012
ok. So, even though the sex was with mutual consent, it amounts to rape if it was done under false promises of marriage. i have the marriage certificate from the temple. Will that hold any validity. I have sms history with him in which its been clear that he has been promising me a life together and that we are husband and wife. He had come on Teej (a hindu festival done by women for husbands). I have proofs of that too. He hit me and I have proofs of the abuses I got on my hand. My society people know him as my husband and so do many other people. He had come to my office and my colleague too know him as my husband. It has caused me immense social,physical, emotional damage. I find myself in a complete soup now. It hurts me every minute to realise how he cheated on me. I wish to take this up with his parents and make him answer for this damage socially as well. Please advise
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 21 October 2012
As u were aware he was married, and u placed him in your office, so know his address etc,
It seems all sex, love affairs are two sided response. U r equally involved in this immoral relationship, knowingly and deliberately, and you wanted to break a house of an another lady too, wanted few children become fatherless!!
You had on your own taken calculated risk.
You also know how difficult and time consuming to get Divorce.
Your relations had a pleasing time, that made both of you happy for the period.
Any relations, even husband & Wife ,never remain same lifetime, and that's why so many Divorce cases pending in court.
So a time came, when your relation became stale, with only hatred for each other. It is but-natural.
Try to understand the Life..
Regegious and Royal way of life is the best.
Any shortcut- like affair with married man or woman is Short cut to please ourself, and we have to pay for it, with unhappy -tense days.
Though we are sorry for your case, and sentimets hurt, but it is better to start new with real, religious, royal ways.
Remember you are saved, or otherwise, how you would have lived with such bad moral character cheater, who would have gone to many other women , and you as wife suffered!!
So believe in god, He is Great, He saved you and your Life. Forget & forgive.Now choose a better partner, and go ahead with new Life.
Taking up bitterness with others will spoil your peace and happiness too. It will waste your time, with unpleasant moments, and more publicity. You need to start a new life, not he.
A man unfaithful to his wife, cannot be faithful or honest to you
What will you get out of all these?? He may throw more mud on you.
No breaking home to build your home.
No sex before marriage.
God bless you.
Akshi
(Querist) 21 October 2012
If a man says that he belongs to broken home and builds a relationship, I dont think I am attempting to break home. Its been cheating to have sex and fun and then get into dogmatic life due to fear of social losses. And I wish to expose such frauds. Can you help ?
