Husband and wife issues kindly offer valuable words
Saurabh Sharma
(Querist) 02 June 2014
This query is : Resolved
Dear Members,
I am Saurabh married in 2012 but soon after two to three months issues started my mother used some bad language this is due to that in marriage we have not taken a single rupee and people around us started talking she informed to her parents after that they took my class i informed my parents problems were growing day by day she started to went to her parents house every day this hurts me. she is always with her parents and wanted me to left my parents and join hands with her parents only i refused it but i agree that we will be living separately. now she also wanted me to do everything according to her parents wishes this is not accepted to me at all and we have exchanged some hatred languages on each other in august 2013 last year she left my house and i with my ego not called her to come back.
It is around 10 months since then we have not talked to each other we both are not in favor of any court case because it takes around 4-5 years and we both aged 30 years.
Now i realized that the issue is worse if i talk to her parents then they will welcome me with abusive language this is sure and even not to talk,
We both are 50-50% responsible for the problem i am not interested to divorce but if she wants then i am ready, she and i have not filled any case against each other
Dear all respected members kindly advice how to improve the situation
Thanks
Saurabh Sharma
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 02 June 2014
If both of you want out of court settlement then file a petition for mutual divorce.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 02 June 2014
Why don't you discuss the problem face to face with her. See, what both of you want? If she and you both don't want divorce, then try to make things work. However, if both wish to be away from each other, better go for Mutual Consent Divorce.
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Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 02 June 2014
You can take help / initiation of some of your family friend to get the matter sorted out. Go away with your ego and save your marriage. path of divorce is full of miseries / disrespect and path after it is also not as per wish / always good.
Consider the pros and cons, and if no possibility of patch up go with the Mutual Consent Divorce.
Saurabh Sharma
(Querist) 03 June 2014
Dear Respected members i am very thankful for your valuable advice,
I hesitate to talk to her because it has been 9 months since we have not talked to each other but one thing is sure in our 2 and 1/2 years of marriage she has cleared that i will not give divorce at any cost i also don't want to end but i want to wait for another two months let things work and time will heal every thing
Thanks
Saurabh Sharma
Guest
(Expert) 03 June 2014
Take the help of some common friend of both the families to start dialogue.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 03 June 2014
Unless you two talk it out, differences would only grow. I am often reminded of the song:
"Tumhe ye Judd ki hum pukaare, hume ye ummeed wo bulaaye.
Hain naam hotho par ab bhi lekin, awaaz mein pad gayee daraare"
So better take control of things and talk.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
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Facebook: www.facebook.com/shoneekapoor
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If you don't fight for what you want, don't cry for what you LOST.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 03 June 2014
Unless you two talk it out, differences would only grow. I am often reminded of the song:
"Tumhe ye Judd ki hum pukaare, hume ye ummeed wo bulaaye.
Hain naam hotho par ab bhi lekin, awaaz mein pad gayee daraare"
So better take control of things and talk.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
www.shoneekapoor.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/shoneekapoor
twitter.com/shoneekapoor
Yahoogroups: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sahodar
If you don't fight for what you want, don't cry for what you LOST.
