Mentally abused harassed by wife and her parent.
Guest
(Querist) 06 August 2014
This query is : Resolved
Will i have to pay for any alimony or part of my property if we are getting divorced within 2 months of marriage?
M.Sheik Mohammed Ali
(Expert) 06 August 2014
YOU CAN USE THE AFORESAID PROOF AS SECONDARY EVIDENCE, BEST WAY YOU CAN SEND LEGAL NOTICE TO YOUR UNCLE AND YOUR WIFE. WITH AFORESAID FACT. IT WILL SAFE IN FUTURE COMPLAINT AGAINST YOU.
Guest
(Querist) 06 August 2014
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Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 06 August 2014
First of all the inability of her parents to get her transferred to Hyderabad is none of their fault and is no ground for divorce and is also not a harassment.
As per your post your who grievance is starting from there.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 06 August 2014
you are confessing of having statedf that
"if you can buy us things as per my standards that will be fine and if you cant afford then you dont buy as the following week my parentswere coming to hyderabad and they will purchase the same for me"
This clearly indicates that you have so set standards for receiving gifts and if your in-laws do not meet the standard then you will humiliate them for low purchasing power.
WHAT ELSE DO YOU THINK DOWRY DEMAND IS.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 06 August 2014
you yourself said
"option of sending her by flight in which case her daughtr can be with them for the function and she can return the same day and be with me too. "
So this is clear that you did not like her to spend more than a day sunrise to sunset and return to Hyderabad. Total 6-8 hours journey itself including local journey both ways and she gets only 3-4 hours to be with relatives.
what else do you think slavery is.
you never said that whether you were invited and if declined invitation.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 06 August 2014
you are Christians. She does not like the customs which are against Christianity or atleast she believes to be against Christianity. You are forcing these customs against her wish.
DO not you know that it is religious persecution a criminal offense rather than domestic violence.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 06 August 2014
you are expecting allegations under 498a after leaving her with no choice.
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(Querist) 06 August 2014
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Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 August 2014
so you did not have leave and would stop her from going even when she is willing to travel alone.
You offered her to travel by air on the condition of same day return.
You may accept it or not, it is harassment from your side.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 August 2014
inability to get a transfer to matrimonial town is just not a reason for divorce.
You have not stated in which organisation she is working.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 August 2014
"they made the wedding invitations with my name on top then changed the format on the wedding day. "
this incoherent and unbelievable assertion/allegation. Wedding card cannot be changed on the wedding day it is already distributed well in advance.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 August 2014
"wat will i do withings tht s not to my standards? Instead of keeping it asife not using it "
If you accept the gifts and use/not use then it is no so serious. But insulting them for low purchasing power is pure dowry demand when it is followed by creating situation for breaking of marriage.
YOU ARE NOT KIND TO YOURSELF.
Guest
(Querist) 07 August 2014
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Dr G V Rao
(Expert) 07 August 2014
Absolutely agree with Mr Sudhir Kumar....Mr Daniel u r in the wrong......my God within few weeks of ur marriage u have insulted them, asked them for better gifts, stopped her from going to her family function on condition of same day return, marriage card controversy, divorce notice etc etc...U have created the perfect and fertile ground for them to sow the seed of a case against u..You should have sought good advice from elders and marriage counselors and then gone ahead.....Sorry to say but u messed up your life already...try to negotiate and get back to normalcy or else u won't have peace...
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 07 August 2014
"Mr Daniel u r in the wrong.."
I support views of Dr. Rao.
You married in blood relationship " Ur uncle's d"
You demanded dowry, of higher standard goods!!
BE CAREFUL...YOU COMMITTED CRIME/ ILLEGAL ACT..
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(Querist) 07 August 2014
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Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 August 2014
doe snot matter how many amenities you have in your house
your words
"if you can buy us things as per my standards that will be fine and if you cant afford then you dont buy as the following week my parentswere coming to hyderabad and they will purchase the same for me"
after these words you created situation for break of marriage.
WHAT ELSE DO YOU THINK IS DOWRY DEMAND.
Insulting girls 's parent for their low purchase power.
you say that you just to give out my opinion for the gifts so a dowry harassment is it?
Perhaps you do not realise that your so called opinion is badly insulting them.
You are boasting of big TV and fridge in parental home. But did you buy that big TV or Fridge in your home before they could offer what they could afford?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 August 2014
Blaming them for not getting transfer to Hyderabad. (sure the organisation where she is working is not their domestic enterprise.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 August 2014
These are your own words which betray you. When version of your wife is taken in THANA or CAW cell then harsher facts will be revealed.
Some persons abandon the wrong path without loosing any thing and some person do not.
Thana/CAW/court/Jail etc are not so rosy places (contrary to what shown in Movies) that one should work hard to be at their mercy.
Actual thana does not employ comedians like in movie. They are trained/paid to be tough when they meet a stubborn person.
actual Jails are not so clean and disciplined as shown in movies.
Guest
(Querist) 07 August 2014
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K.K.Ganguly
(Expert) 07 August 2014
1. Yours ids a border line case of smartly asking for dowry/Aericle of your asumed standard,
2. Had you denied receiving those things from them, then you would have avoided charges of asking for dowry.
Guest
(Querist) 07 August 2014
Thank you for your inputs.
Dr G V Rao
(Expert) 08 August 2014
Dear Roger, a brotherly advice...marriage is not abt gifts or high living or low living or 42" TV or double door fridge......marriage is a beautiful relationship which can be enjoyed without any TV or fridge or house...just go back and seek her love again for u..see hw good ur life wud become....as an experienced marriage counselor, I can vouch that by your present acts, ur rest of another 10 years wud be wasted running after Courts, dates, trials, appeals etc etc...then when even if u win, u will have nothing to celebrate........just an advice...rest ur fate.......
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 08 August 2014
why should she quit the job to live with a husband who brought such a ego and mess within weeks of marriage.
Guest
(Querist) 08 August 2014
I dont know why people over here dont try to understand the point im trying to say. As a matter of fact im not interested in any material things. only thing that bothers me that they have cheated us with false promise, insulted my qualification and profession, tried to instigate me from my parents by trying to pressurize me to leave my parents...etc...
Guest
(Querist) 08 August 2014
Mr Sudhir Kumar i dont think you get my point. If at all she had stuck to her promise this issue wouldnt have arised in the first place. yes i have withdrawn the assertions as it is drifting the topic away from the main issue.
Mr Sudhir just out of curiosity what will be the situation in i had done the same false promise regarding to my profession? how will the society act to it?
And as told earlier i didnt demand for any material things, i just gave my suggestions, i think as a citizen of india i have the rights to speech. And as far as i know suggestion is totally different than willfully forcing someone. That is why i told them that i will buy it for myself if they cant afford for it.
Guest
(Querist) 08 August 2014
When the same sugessions were given by the girl and her parents for the type and weight of gold when it came for the time when my family to gift jewellery for her?? should'nt that be coming under demand/dowry? when the same sugessions were given by me then how can it alone come under dowry allegation? I would like to know why this kind of biase?
How is it fair to insult someone's tradision and culture which was done by the girl's parents for our tradition of wedding arrangements?
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 09 August 2014
The experts have properly opined to the first post itself, nothing more to add.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 10 August 2014
"i think as a citizen of india i have the rights to speech"
all those accused of any crime done by verbal expressions have such rights.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 10 August 2014
Experts are unaware of your undue smartness Mr.ACCOUNT DELETED!
YOU HAVE COMPLETELY CHANGED YOUR ORIGINAL QUERY AND NOW BY..........YOU ARE REMARKING UPON THEM.
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