How to come out with solution.
rajesh
(Querist) 16 January 2015
This query is : Resolved
Sirs
I respect the views those who gave reply to my previous query "how to get rid of tough situation". I am looking for permanent solution which paves the way for either of our sides. I wrote about my coerced, unconsummated, uncohabitated, unregistered and unaccepted marriage 13 yrs ago. During that time, my struggle have been to ensure that a destitute boy (me) survives the blow for his parents,completes his BE and get job and fill the ditch of long penury the effect of which was somebody played with my life like his commodity. Now long yrs have gone expecting someday we will settle it amicably. But they wanted only option to me . " You have only option to take her, you like it or not else we will ruin yrs career and yr parents life." Of course Law and Public sympathy seems to be favouring them. I am left more like Abhimanyu fighting alone till last. There are few to feel my sorrow.
They forcefully entered my village house a week ago and left the girl with my parents. Clearly my parents have succumbed to the force of them again after 13 yrs. Sir pls suggest what is the way ahead. How can I convince them for MCD which is will help either of us. Secondly if not convinced, Can I go for dissolution on dessertion though from my end. Taking time may not be a problem to me. The way my life was decimated in my childhood I have little interest in marriage though I fully respect The institution of marriage which is fair.
rajesh
(Querist) 16 January 2015
To note it was a child marriage as well. Things could have been cleared long back I agree but what I had that time neither the knowledge of my rights nor the finance to defend. I was a bright child in studies which actually attracted those devils to hunt me. My brightness became my killer and turned my life into a long dark journey.
rajesh
(Querist) 16 January 2015
And I learnt forceful marriages are in Vogue in Bihar since long time. Lifting/ Cheating/ Threatening the poor parents of bright boys and getting them married to inferior, otherwise rejectable girls and making the proof and getting the support of society if muscle power fails later to settle the matter and it becomes happy married life. Boys live in that fear for ever and things go ahead like this. This is a time when one has afforded to resist. I don't know the future.
rajesh
(Querist) 17 January 2015
Pls sombdy reply
Jayashree Hariharan
(Expert) 17 January 2015
Mr. Rajesh what is your age? Am asking this, since the court will question why you did not raise the issue till date?
Secondly, you can file for desertion, but what if your wife comes back to you.... in any case she is already in your village house.
Mutual consent divorce they may agree, you can try to settle the alimony amount, suppose this is what they are behind.
rajesh
(Querist) 18 January 2015
I have written there Maam . I am 33 now. Incident when I was 20. Secondly read through my description above. Actually girl so below average that they may have difficulty in finding any person. This is the reason they chose such tactics then. So they may not settle just for alimony. I am one who respects women like anything but this is aboutmy life of choice which I have been struggling for.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate 
(Expert) 08 March 2015
repeated vague qury at http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/can-i-have-divorce-on-desertion-when-i-never-accepted-her--526676.asp
