advice on marital problem
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Anonymous
(Querist) 15 March 2011
This query is : Resolved
I got married on 6 dec 2007 and we belong to hindu community. Soon after marriage my husband insisted that i giv my jewelry to my mother inlaw which i did. we then moved to bangalore(me and my husband)to the house which is in my mother in laws name. She used to visit us for about 20 days and always slept in our bedroom with us even though there was another bedroom available for her. She also complained about me to my husband all the time which created fights between me and him and he has also hit m about 4 to 5 times. Things were then fine between m and my husband and we decided we can have a child. But his medical rports showed low sperm count and hnce we had to do IUI and was done with my husbands sperm sample. the copy of consent letter is with me. The i concieved and after 3 months of pregnancy my husband suggested i come back to blgaum where my inlaws and my parents both stay. i initiaaly went to my inlaws house but was not given propr treatment. I was not given proper food and was forced to eat maggi most of the time. Then my husband suggested i stay with my parents as his mom was not able to take care of me which i did. Then my husband started fighting with me late at nights on the phone and messages. It was my 9th month of pregnancy and at 2 in the night my husband called and fought with me saying i dont behav well with hismom and gave me lot of bad words to which i too gave badwords to his mom and him. afte that h came for the delivery and was fine. he also visited me a couple of times and also the naming ceremony. in oct he was to tak me home with the baby girl but he refused saying i fight and give him and his mom badwords and showed the messages to my dad. meanwhil i lost my mom but he didnot attain the last rites nor was taking my calls. my family mmbers trid talking to his parnts but they said i was not to step in their house. I then found in feb2011 that h was having an intimat chat with a girl who is maried and seeking a divorce. I went to mt him in bangalor but h didnot take me and daughter home. now he is again not taking my calls but theatened me to divorce and said was just waiting to know if i would agree for mutual which i said no. he then threatened me sayingthat his lawyer would create false poofs against me to gt him a divorce. i want to go back and try solving our problems as we have a child in question. please advise me how to go about it. what are my chances in going back home. I have not recieved any notice to this date. Please advice me. Thank you.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 15 March 2011
Engage the seniors of your family to resolve the dispute. If that does not succeed then there are lot of legal remedies available to enforce the right of maintenance, both for you and for your child as well.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 16 March 2011
My elders tried talking to him but he is just ignoring the entire issue just says he doesnt want me, i do not wish to get separated what is the legal way in which i can handle this?
Thank you
