Is it possible to get divorce due to mental disorder?
Guest
(Querist) 07 December 2011
This query is : Resolved
Hi,
I am working as an engineer. I got married in Dec 2009. It was a pure arranged marriage.
Our horoscope didn’t match; even then we were ready for marriage.
Before marriage my wife was working in Mumbai. We got engaged in June 2009. She has lot of friends (Boys are more than girls). She is an extrovert person. I have few friends, I am very choosy person. Before marriage we were talking on phone. Most of the time I was hearing new friends name from her. “Aaj uska phone aya tha, aaj usne ye kaha… etc etc.” After few months, I started feeling very insecure. The insecurity was increased day by day. Because of two, three incidents, I stared taking doubt. I had panic attacks. I couldn't sleep at night. We were started fighting on this matter. I told this about her parents and my elder brother. Her parents said that, they cannot take backward action. They were confused. They said that, problem is in your attitude. My brother told that “you became very possessive about her. She has her personal life. You can not take doubt because of these events. Nobody came to you to say that she is characterless. So don’t think like that.” I tired to stop that kind of thinking. But whenever I tried to think on other matter, my mind came back to that point only. But I wasn’t sure, what I was thinking is true or just my misunderstanding. Between the time we got married. My insecurity increased. After marriage she was always on call. She was receiving sms at mid night also. I started to cross check her mobile. I got few doubtful information. But from that, I wasn’t able to prove anything against her. When I asked her some clarification. She got angry and told this to her parents. They called me and said that they will kill me if I will take doubt in future. Our daughter is an innocent girl. Her brother also called me and said that, he will give “Supari” to someone to kill me if I will repeat this thing.
I kept quiet thinking that I am thinking in wrong direction. Whenever any doubtful incident happens, I was telling my mind that, “it’s normal. You should think in other way. Think positively.” But one day I got roses in her notebook. I asked her, she told that these are from the bouquet which I had given to her before marriage. But the bouquet was also there in wardrobe as it is. I compared the roses, those were different. After this incident, I couldn’t tell my mind to think positively.
I went to psychiatrist. He said that I am not normal person. I have lots of prejudgments. He has done some psychiatry tests on we both. The report was that, I have a decease (I don’t know its name). That’s why I can’t understand her. He talked to us both. I had gone thru treatment for 8-9 months. But he didn’t believed that my wife also needs to change her behavior. He always wanted me to change. But I couldn’t change completely. Meantime, mentally I stared to hate her. Now, I am unable to open my heart couldn’t share anything with her. Uninterested to talk to her. Always trying to avoid her.
Now I am tired of doing adjustment. If I have a mental disorder, I am ready to accept it. I need divorce. I don’t want anything other than that. I am ready to give her my property. I will go to my native place; at least I can take care of my parents.
Is it possible to get divorce based on this mental disorder? What are the documents I need to submit? Do we need to stay apart for 1 year before applying for divorce?
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 07 December 2011
dear commanman
any divorce petition can be filed only after 1 year of the marriage
yes mentaly disorder is a ground for divorce u/s 13 (1) (iii)HMA
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 07 December 2011
yes! Nadeem is right in his advise.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 07 December 2011
mental illness can be cured . dont lose hope . take your wife into confidence . expalin to her your mental condition .
if she is of understanding nature she will help you .
leave the decision to her wheter she wants to stay married with you or whether she wants an divorce . dont take a hasty decision .
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 07 December 2011
Repeated query from a different place in forum.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
mahendrakumar
(Expert) 08 December 2011
if you were not happy with the treatment and advise of the present psychiatrist,you may consult a different one also.
your "personality disorder"could be treated/cured. It will defenitely take sometime and deliberate effort from your side.
from the way you have narrated the case,I feel,you can improve. Talk to her peacefully as the divorce is not a permanent remedy for your problems.
Sailesh Kumar Shah
(Expert) 12 December 2011
i suggest you to follow advise of Mr.Mahendrakumar.
Arun Kumar Bhagat
(Expert) 22 January 2012
It is better to live alone than spoiling the lives of two.
