How do law can help me
Kirthi
(Querist) 26 April 2012
This query is : Resolved
Hi,
within 3months of my marriage my husband and his family treated me bad for dowry... I came to my fathers home....Now My husband and his family have taken the antisept bail, but till now I don’t have an idea to go and file a dowry case since I want to live my husband…. Please suggest me what I can do
elders involved to solve the problem but elders are speaking in middle my father in law went... my husband also went behind his father..
they have given the following conditions to me
1. I should see my parents once in a month and none of my relative should come to see me expect my parents that weekly once they can see me.
2. I should give my whole salary to my father in law. He will give some money for my personal expense. (including my lunch)
3. whatever his parents says I should do without any question.
my husband doesn't have decision making knowledge. only his father his doing everything, even buying perfume to me his father is doing.
Even I don’t have any privacy in there home, everything everything is common in there home
If I am living with my husband separately from his parents means there is possibility of change… but my father in law will not allow us he required both of us salary
My husband afraid for his father... my inlaw expected me to be as savalary to them...
please advice... how do law can help me
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 26 April 2012
Law can only help you to punish the offender.
It can not help you to build your home.
If you really want your marital life back then you have only option but to negotiate with your husband may be involving the family members.
It mat take time but to work out marriage one need time.
So keep patience and keep faith on god.
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 26 April 2012
3 months is very short time. You should live with your husband and take him to your confident gradually. A man who is habituated to obey his father for all these years cannot change in one fine morning. It can happen only gradually. Be patient and compromise for some time. Things will definitely change in a matter of time.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 26 April 2012
I agree with Ld. Barman.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Kirthi
(Querist) 26 April 2012
Yes, i am waiting almost 3 months i am waiting but no communication between us now... I lived only 3 months with him.... I feel if we live separate means he have to take some ownership which will give some responsible also... so dependence of his parents will reduce…
is there any possibility to live with him separately without his parents dependence
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 26 April 2012
Kirthi!
you should have searched a disobedient boy to marry.
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 27 April 2012
When you marry and go to your husband's family, you are becoming a part of the family. So, instead of seperating the father and son, try to mingle with the family.
