Husband and in-laws harrasment
Punitha
(Querist) 12 May 2014
This query is : Resolved
Hi,am from middle class family completed my BE in part time, while studying itself i got married in 2008 there all my in-laws started harassing me and not letting me to study at all and the person I married started to give torture and harassment day by day as he is Impotent. Some how told my parents and elderly person of my family and Got mutual divorce from him. Then another marriage alliance came in 2010 we told them all thing happened to me and also gave my divorce copy to them before marriage. Since My dad is an heart patient they told that my husband will settled in Bangalore it self and also he told he has studied till PUC since he has no work over there in Chennai (Kalpakkam) I will settle in Bangalore my riding auto. They demanded Rs. 1Lakh cash for marriage and 25 pounds of gold jewels, 1Kg of silver item. While shopping for marriage we all went from Bangalore to Chennai during that time my father has observed that he is very close to his Elder Brother's wife (sister in-law).my father told me I only told my father after marriage every thing will be alright. Marriage was held in 2011 in Chennai, after marriage they took all my jewels and kept.
With the help of my jewels they kept Vegetable shop, I was giving my salary to them every month. Because of this vegetable shop he was unable to travel by that time I use to travel alone every weekend to Chennai, by that i came to know that my brother in-law treating my husband as a slave by taking all his earnings to look after her daughter. My husband always listens to his Brother's wife speech, he does what ever she tells, she will fight with my husband if he comes to Bangalore. When I started to question all this my brother in-law use to fight with me using bad words when my husband was not there. In front my husband
he use to act like a good, humble person. After this fight I fell very sick so that i cant travel any more, so I just told my husband about this by that time he started to fight me, harassing me, speaking with ill-legal words. After this Once he came to Bangalore then am conceived. Later he told no more he will come to Bangalore and also I came to know he is not educated he cheated me. Now listening to his brother, brother's wife he started torturing me day by day. am blessed with Girl baby, after delivery he came to hospital to see child and after then he again started quarreling with me not even asking about the child till now whenever he calls he uses harsh words.He is telling for him the vegetable shop is important I and my child don't need.
Please suggest me what to do, i don't want divorce my husband. The only thing is he should come here to Bangalore and we should leave our life. Until he is there in Kalpakkam he is very cruel by listening to his mom, brother, brother's wife speech. When he is separated from them, he is a good person. At least 15 days once he should come to Bangalore to see our daughter.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 12 May 2014
The dispute has not reached such stage for which you need legal intervention.
Try to stay with your husband at separate location to avoid influence of your sister in law. With passage of time things should become smoother especially when both of you are blessed with a baby girl.
Punitha
(Querist) 12 May 2014
He is not ready to come for separate location also, when ever I use to call him and try to convince him he wont even pick phone, if he picks also he uses harsh words. He does not want us he is not ready to come and see my child. We are moved to depression state, even today also i called him i spoke politely but he is shouting like hell.
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 12 May 2014
Yes I do agree with mr barman. You sair it is ur second life and with your interest only Its performed. So think to livw away fron both relatives and share your mind and try to live together.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 12 May 2014
You have to take risk of loosing your relation. You should file complaints of DV, 498A against your husband and his family. There are possibility that something positive emerges out at negotiation table / mediation. It may result in divorce. In such case you may ask for maintenance and all your stridhan.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 12 May 2014
Then the legal recourse is open to you but do bear in mind that it would end your marriage for good.
