Lieness before mrg
S
(Querist) 10 July 2013
This query is : Resolved
My husband is working in banglore.before mrg my in-laws said that i will stay with my husband in banglore always & they also allow me to work there.Now after mrg they r saying that i hv to stay with in-laws where thay live(in village).My husband listen all things of his parents.Now they say that i cant work & cant go anywhere outside home.They made us fool before mrg.
So what can i do ???
i dont want to go to my in-laws home as they are always quarreling with me.????
Can i legally say no to go in in-laws place
to my husband when he forces me to come???
can i have rights to work ???(my husband before mrg agreed to this term & now says that he dont like a women to go outside home)??
if i dont listen him ,his parents says that he will take divorce ?? But i dont want divorce
we hv tried to convince them with help of relatives,but they dont listen to anything.
tell me a solution by which i can lawfully ask them to the terms on which we get married??
Adv Archana Deshmukh
(Expert) 10 July 2013
Legally you can use the dv act to work if they are not letting you to take up employment but it will worsen the relationship between you and your husband. These things can be settled only by amicable means and not thru law otherwise things may further degenerate byond repair.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 10 July 2013
So what can i do ???
-You may settle the issues amicably. Some of your wishes have to be forgotten.
i dont want to go to my in-laws home as they are always quarreling with me.????
-If you don’t want to go, legally, nobody can force you to go there.
Can i legally say no to go in in-laws place to my husband when he forces me to come???
-You may.
can i have rights to work ???
-Legally you have all rights to work.
If you go for amicable settlement you will have to loose your dream to work at present. For some time you may have to stay with your in laws under discipline. You may have to share household work or may have to do most of the portion. But it would be beneficial in long run, it will bring peace and stability in your life. If things move favorable you will move with your hubby and may work also.
If you become adamant to work now, not to stay with your in laws at all, things would worsen, divorce proceedings may start, and cases of DV, dowry, maintenance etc may start. Life of both may become hell between court and lonely stay. If Mutual Consent Divorce happens, you would be free in 1-2 years otherwise it may take 5-6 years and even more, for divorce. You may not hope for all well in remarriage.
Choice is yours, try to adopt middle acceptable path which is suitable and beneficial to both.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 11 July 2013
i dont want to go to my in-laws home as they are always quarreling with me.????
Ans : you have a right to live with husband wherever on earth he is. Just walk in where he is. you have no obligation to live with his parents as unpaid maid when you know they are ill treating you. Dial 100 then and there if he does not allow you to be there.
Can i legally say no to go in in-laws place
to my husband when he forces me to come???
Ans : Yes
can i have rights to work ???(
Ans : Yes
my husband before mrg agreed to this term & now says that he dont like a women to go outside home)??
Ans : He may not like his parents to be at thana in DV case as you are being ill treated.
if i dont listen him ,his parents says that he will take divorce ?? But i dont want divorce
Ans : Parents have no right to divorce. They will give such threats until they face police like accused. Indian police with all shortcomings is expert in turning criminal to normal life even without registering case.
we hv tried to convince them with help of relatives,but they dont listen to anything.
tell me a solution by which i can lawfully ask them to the terms on which we get married??
Ans : If you have read Ramayana then in Sunderkand there is a verse which says "vinay na manat jaladhi jad, divas teen gaye beet.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 11 July 2013
further amicable solution can come only when other party is ready for solution. Other party will not be ready for solution unless they know that they have something to loose. If you go for action under DV act they have everything to loose.
K.K.Ganguly
(Expert) 14 July 2013
1. There is no redressable solution to your problem unless both of you come to a settlement,
2. You have every right to work & he has no right to dictate you his terms to stay at home since he does not like women going out,
3. You do not want Divorce but he is threatening for filing Divorce suit if you do not resign which you do not want to,
4. Under the given circumstances, you shall have to chose between your Job/freedom & married life/husband,
5. Should you decide to continue to attend your office & he decides to go for Divorce for that reason, you can take our guidance for contesting the said Divorce Suit or other related legal cases.
