Live in relationship
rajesh kumar
(Querist) 02 October 2014
This query is : Resolved
I am married since 14 yrs & having a 3 kids.
Actually, 3 yrs back, as a result of mutual affection to a divorcee lady in my office, we decided to live in relation.
To the sake of satisfaction to her mother, we also undertook 7 rounds around fire in a temple.
We also had a child from that relationship.
Just after birth of child, she along with her boy-friend started to blackmail me for 1 crore rupees.
Now to my surprise, she has filed a complaint against me under various sections and demanding that huge amount beyond my reach.I am under big tension.
Now just few days back, i came to know that her boy-friend who is also married to someone else, was her previous live-in-relation & was living in her house as husband. And that house is in the name of both of them as husband & wife.
Life has become hell now for me now.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 October 2014
YOU HAVE ACTUALLY MADE NO QUERY. You are tense and do not want to ask what.
your query is not clear.
If so called B/f of that girl can produce evidence of his marriage earlier as evident from property documents then you are in jail on charge of adultery.(upto 5 Yr.
When there is ceremony in temple you cannot call it a live in relationship you have married her despite having a valid marriage. The said married is void. She can just allege that you hidden your marital status. You are then in jail on charge of cheating.
Since your marriage with the lady is not lawful she can alleged that you made her to believe of being legally married and then she agreed to live with you. You are in jail on charge of rape.
Your original wife can have you in Jail on charge of bigamy.
The wife of her B/F can have her jailed if willing and if there is evidence of their living as husband and wife.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 03 October 2014
Very well advised by expert Mr. Sudhir Kumar, I appreciate and fully agree with his opinion, nothing more to add except to
get mentally prepared for shifting to Tihar jail for about 7 years or so, enjoy another woman there also.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 03 October 2014
Royal and Religious path/ leads to happiness, peace,, joy of life.
Godliness/ clean relationship helps life.
Practice it from now onwards.
Take care of your wife, Love her, scarify life for her, and god may forgive you.
Law cannot,
But Law have hundreds of loopholes.. to save yourself.
commit for religious life, & Dharm will protect you...
Of course : you may have to pay heavy cost of your misdeed!!!
She certainly need money, not your punishment !!She too enjoyed it// She too deserve punishment.
Pleasure follows pain & v v.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 03 October 2014
refuse to make any payment . contest cases filed your mistress on merits
rajesh kumar
(Querist) 03 October 2014
Dear experts, i just want to inform here that I did not conceal my first marriage from her.
We were in same office and i am having enough documents which show that she was well aware of my marital status before.
Her so called previous husband is already married before and do not want to come to picture so as to live happy with her previous wife.
As far as my original wife, i have accepted my mistake and sin to cheat my original wife and her relatives.
If i should prepare myself to go to jail, why should not she accompany me.
I think we both have done a crime and cheated my original wife.
rajesh kumar
(Querist) 03 October 2014
It was just a sincere support to her.
YES i supported here NOT KEEPING IN MIND THAT LAWS ARE AGAINST ME.
For the last 2 years, regularly giving her best support in her work and depositing enough money every month for her and baby.
How can she ignore:
1. Documents which shows that she was well aware of my earlier marriage.
2. How can she say that she just bought a flat with her b/f and showed him as husband, but never married her and did not divorce him.
3. Here the main suffered is my original wife, now she.
4. But even today i truly respect her and baby and wish to pay some amount regularly per month but not a huge amount at a time.
K.K.Ganguly
(Expert) 03 October 2014
1. I find that there is no quesry from your side and you have just informed that you are under big tension,
2. I fail to understand why are you in big tension now,
3. When you were conducting those illegal acts and were illegally enjoying your life, did you not know that you may one day land in to jail for your such acts,
4. Now, time has come for you to pay for your crime,
5. Prepare yourself for a jail term which will be a surety should your wife files a bigamy case cagainst you.
P. Venu
(Expert) 03 October 2014
Your acts had been immoral,if not illegal. And that lady was a partner in the wrong doing. As such, there is nothing to worry as far any legal action she may take.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 03 October 2014
Though you are standing on very weak legal platform, however, you should keep hopes, consult some seasoned senior lawyer to defend you from very beginning / before the case starts.
Always hope for the best and think for the worst.
RAJU O.F.,
(Expert) 03 October 2014
This may be an eye-opener for those who indulge in such live-in relations. You have to suffer its consequences. Think about your 3 kids in actual marriage and the kid of your illegal relation. Pay huge money to lawyers for saving yourselves.
Anirudh
(Expert) 03 October 2014
Dear Mr. Rajesh,
If you really want any help, you have to approach a lawyer well versed in such matters and handle the matter. You can definitely come out of the mess, provided you do not unnecessarily talk too much openly and approach a lawyer and take his advice and act accordingly. Any attempt by you to delay the matter and to avoid spending money at this stage on lawyer will prove quite costly.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 October 2014
agreeing with Mr Anirudh I will advise that since your case is full of weak points you need not discuss it on open forum as the lawyer of opposite party if member of this forum will get enlightened.
J K Agrawal
(Expert) 04 October 2014
Learned Friends.
Most respectfully i will take a permission to say that
Our client may be an offender of heinous offence, he may have done a most foully act but i think we are not to teach him that 'he was wrong and he shall have to bear consequences'. I think that he already knows all these things.
We are, as professionals, only to tell him what is legal way with him.
Actually Mr Rajesh has been cheated by the lady as well as by her boy friend. He can file complaint against her.
The case of bigamy not made out until wife of Rajesh do not file a complaint.
Case of cheating not made out against Rajesh as every thing was wide open and nothing was concealed by him.
Case of maintenance is not made out at any trial court as no valid relation of Husband and wife.
The Live in Relationship is identified by the High Courts and Supreme Court only and not by the trial courts. So no need to worry.
406, 498A, 417 IPC not made out.
Case of Enticing a Married Woman also not made out.
I think there is nothing to worry about much but after all a wrong is always wrong.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 04 October 2014
I do not wish to further discuss weaknesses of his claim on open forum
K.K.Ganguly
(Expert) 04 October 2014
1. I certainly agree to disagree very humbly,
2. Yes, we are professionals and we profess law. We assit the Court of law to adjudicate the matters as per law,
3. The querist has admittedly committed crime punishable as per law and there is no room for trying to dilute his offence or save him from the clutches of law,
4. Atmost, he may be advised to surrender before the law,
5. Lastly, if one commits an offence on other while jointly doing another offence,then the offence committed by one offender on the other will not be admitted by the Court,
6. Here both the live in partners were married and have committed an offence of bigamy/adultery (by marrying after taking 7 circular rounds around fire) which is punishable by jail terms. So, while committing the said offence, if one partner committed an offence on another, the said offence will not be admitted by the Court.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 05 October 2014
Agreed with Mr Ganguly. When someone comes here for advise he needs to be told where he stands as he did not come here for goodie talks. He came to know strength and weakness of his case and he stands advised as per available facts.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 05 October 2014
I fully agree with experts and nothing more to add except the fact that being the members of this forum we have been providing FREE advise showing all the weakness (also)of the querist, whereas dealing with client is to show green pasture with professionalism emphasising the strengths of client.
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 06 October 2014
Don't disclose and admit your wrongs in public forum anymore. Sit tight over the matter till you get any legal notice from the opposite party or get a call from any court of law.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 07 October 2014
Now thats far from finished since the author himself admits his blunders, let us not flare up the issue to make him feel more guilty which may lead to a situation that he confines within four walls due to distress/depression, without seeking solution to come out of the mess/crisis. I stand by the views of expert Mr. Agrawal and I sully support his suggestions to handle the issue. The author is at liberty to choose next course of action on the basis of varied opinions and suggestions. In my opinion, he may not worry so much but to b in touch with a lawyer to face any situation that may arise consequently.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 08 October 2014
I, as one of the experts in this forum, would like to help only to the people whose problems are genuine. I do not wish to participate in this type of cases - the author instead of repenting himself pleads that that lady also committed crime and should not be caught free. He can pay the professional fee to an eminent lawyer and hire his services.
Guest
(Expert) 08 October 2014
Please Follow the advise of Mr.Biswanath Roy and consult a Local Advocate and Be Prepared
K.K.Ganguly
(Expert) 08 October 2014
I whole heartedly agree with Mr. Jaggarao.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 08 October 2014
I too support views of Mr. Jaggarao.
