Marriage by Falsified information

Querist : Anonymous (Querist) 11 August 2015 This query is : Resolved
Hi I'm young girl Bsc graduate, I recently got into an arrange marriage with a guy from same community known to relative. This guy informed us to have a business set up abroad, was SSC pass, had a hair grafting / transplant done, mom died due to illness and father due to excessive drinking respectively. family in india currently consist of elder brother wife and 10 yr old son, grandmother and younger brother pursuing graduation.
okay now my husband has been abroad since 2007 and I'm required to stay with him abroad. I honestly have married him due to a lot of convincing by my mom dad and my uncle aunt, I wasn't quiet sure if I'll fit the box since iI'm quiet modern by thoughts and also my upbringing.
However marriage happened and within 40 days I found out that this guy and family lied about his 1. mom being dead, she is alive and I met her personally she fell in love with another man and left her house due to in tolerable beating and drinking for my sasur, all three kids were below the age of 15.
2. He wears a wig for his baldness and has done no such surgery as he n his elder brother told us. His hair makes me sick, I found that on the 11th day from our marriage as we had to complete religious things first.
3. At the same time when we got physical this had Been having suhagra, sildenafil and later on confessing it and asking him to stop he still needed a climax spray. I'm not sure if I should worry about this but he claims to be a Virgin, then how on earth does he know all these meds and also the fact that he is going to need them.
4. He failed class 5 twice, class 6 thrice, and class 7 twice post which in 2001 he took LLeaving certificate from school and never appeared SSC.

HHis elder brother is a wife beater too and has about 3 nc under his name. My husband has given me so many instances that makes me feel fooled and cheated because neither is his family good and rational people. Neither is my husband broad minded, honest, rational and smart as he claimed since the time we got engaged till marriage took place. He has harassed me over tea, the gold that my family gave, forcing me to wear salwar and saree even when I go out with him only, as he says that's only in india.. He and his family mind me calling him by his name.

I have confronted all with him and his family, after 2 3 days of persistent lies he finally excepted that he lied as he wouldn't fund a right gal who was also ready to shift abroad with him and he likliked me hence he lies so that me n my family say yes to be married to him.

After all this nuisance my family expects me to forgive all and continue in this marriage. i have no support from anyone except for my younger sister and friend. I really need to know how I can proceed and help myself before I break down ininto depression and family pressure. I'm very ambitious and worked very hard for a very big mnc, I was 6 mths away from being a team manager at the time to took decision to quit and marry. I've lost my career I've lost confidence to move around in the locality I live in. I need help

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