Marriage issue
Vijay
(Querist) 17 January 2017
This query is : Resolved
Hi,
I am having marriage issue ,suffering from last one year.I have married in Jul'15 with an age of 33 years to a girl of same age as arranged marriage.My parents are purely traditional & strictly following the culture ,they allowed me to talk only once ( at the time of marriage fixing ).I have asked only two questions like about her educational qualification & Any other computer courses.i can't even asked any thing more ,as she was not well & seems fever.Then our marriage was done properly in my native place at Odissa with in 2 months time & i am working in Hyderabad .I thought i should be take a family room & bring to my wife to hyderabad. For this i request her to stay some 6 months with my parents at odissa.As per our traditional there is no such good day to take a new start from Aug'15 to Nov'15.But my wife was stayed only 1.5 months in my house with my parents & remaining 4 months with her mother's house.She is having 3 siblings & a mother.She is the younger one. Her two brothers were ,one is 35 years & one is 40 years.Both were bachelor.From our side there is no such dowry was asked before marriage.But they told us to give 2 lac cash,100 gms gold & 5 cents of land as a gift to her sister in front our family members & elders of relatives ( Intermediaries ).They had given 100 Gms of gold as necklace to my wife & chain of 10 Gms to me.After 4 months i had asked about the land of 5 cents.They asked me to come & told me to give the promised land of 5 cents as a gifted during Dasshera festival at my mother in laws house.but it was done exactly reversed they all ( Two brothers,Elder sister & Sister in law & their relatives threatened to me & even slapped me to not ask once again these ,else we will book a dowry case against you.I was totally shocked this behaviour.Then i was informed them we would not like to live our life with your dowry.I am already working in hyderabad with 30 K as my salary.I can live my life happily.
I had bring my wife on 15th Dec'15 to Hyderabad.From starting i was observed her she was behaving with me some inferior & always in dominating character.With no reason she always try to quarrel with me ,while i was return from office .(Office time Staring from home:8:30 AM to Return 8:00 PM )After some doubtful behaviour i was installed a call recording APP in my wife's mobile phone with out her knowledge.There i was found all the false news about me was communicating with her brothers & elder sister.Even planned for blackmail after a child also discussed.Then i had strictly informed to my wife ,we will plan a child after a year .She was not happy with my decision,as i was strictly refused & uses precaution while intercourse. The same was communicated with her family members.They instructed her to threatened her to leave me.This is the daily practice,she always start threatened me to leave with no reason.
One day with out any precaution we had intercourse.I was surprised that she got pregnant on 15 jan'16 . Initially i felt so happy,but still the conversations which i listened was not supported me to go further.Then i convince her as we are not planned now & little bit financial problems ,so we will go for abortion & will plan after 6 months.As the situation was very bad, I requested to my parents to come hyderabad & stay with us for some more days.& i booked train ticket for 30th Jan'16.The main cause was the conversation i hear in call recording with her family member will leave me & demand me with my property/ assets.With this On 25th Jan'16 she left my home while i was not in the house ,before my parents reached & i tried so many times with her number or their family members number.No body were responding me.The same was communicated with me on next day by her cousin brother.He was not responding after that.
Action taken from my side after she left my home :
i had already send two letters after that.& having the proof of acknowledgement.
Forwarded SMS to my brother in laws mobiles, no response found yet.
Claimed me a false statement like "Beating her everyday" & " not giving her proper food ",where i have a proof of record which shows i had given Rs.10 k for her personal use.
Doctor certificate while abortion ,where both of us agreed & recording shows using precaution for not interesting a child .
With in 40 days ,she concluded that i am not suit for her & she left my home without intimate & before my parents reached home.Now she threatened me ,will not give a diverse & file a case for dowry,beating,not giving food & done abortion without her permission.I have all the relevant supporting proofs in terms of phone recording.Then i contacted to a lawyer,he suggested me to go her home & convince her to come,unless i will be in trouble.As i told him i was asked during dashera & all the family members were beaten me & in this case, i have not done any mistake still why should i will surrender her.instead of this it will good ,if we discuss this with the elders of both the family & will make some terms & conditions for both of us (Me & my wife for better future ).Its already one year from the day she left my home over & 18 months from my marriage was already over.
Can you please suggest me ,in such case what should i do ? Is there any chance to go for divorce ? Can I file a case with this supporting recordings? or any thing else.Please reply me .
P. Venu
(Expert) 18 January 2017
Please post the facts highlighting the issue involved.
ramaraju ramaiah
(Expert) 30 January 2017
All story which you have written is observed and carefully read and understanding crises between spouses is only suspicious. no other reasonable cause.In part of you have done wrong thing one is her words recorded with app phone and letters write to her relatives to predetermination to pickup evidence in your favor . and also calling your parents to stay with you. In your statement your income is very low then why you are calling back to your parents to stay with you is it burden to you are not?
