Mental harassment
Tabitha Dara
(Querist) 17 September 2018
This query is : Resolved
In February this year, I eloped and got married. My husband's family arranged the ceremony and brought me to their house to guarantee my safety.. My mother is a single parent and there was friction between us because of which I decided to elope despite knowing that my husband was not working. The very second month, my mother in law said I had to contribute to the monthly expenses and forced me to go to work, which I did. It went okay since then and u began giving 10000 rupees towards monthly expenses. But my expenses were never included in this and I had to bear that separately. Approximately 3-4 months later, my in-laws asked us move out and take a rented apartment. My husband opposed at first staying that we could not afford it, but upon their insistence we agreed. It took us three months post that to gather necessary things like fridge, washing machine household items. We started living separately, but used to have common household fights which I dismissed. I noticed a female classmate messaging my husband late night post 11:30 on three different occasions so I questioned him about the same. He got irritatedand this ensued into a full fledged major fight with me asking him to leave the house and go back to his parents.. Following that I went back to apologize and get him back but now he adamant that he wants a divorce and now my in-laws are stating that I forced them to get us married. They have asked me to sell off whatever I bought and give the money to them and I husband belittles me everyday stating that he will hit me in front of my family if I involve them. This has taken a serious toll on my health and has caused severe mental stress. It's almost 2 weeks now that I am going through this differential treatment. Kindly advise what can I do.
Guest
(Expert) 17 September 2018
Take advantage of the situation, if your husband wants divorce. Agree for mutual divorce and claim monthly maintenance from him and go back to you single mother to live your life with peace, but with the advice of your single mother and other elders, as you have already tasted the result of using your own discretion by eloping from the house.
otherwise, like some other ladies, you can feel free to mindlessly file a dv case against your husband and in-laws by making yourself ready to fill the pockets of the lawyers, as actions are destined to face reactions also from the other side.
Best of luck!
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 17 September 2018
You won't get a single penny from him even if you agree for divorce by mutual consent.
It's your life and living with such person is not worth by any means.
Tell him to arrange for lawyer at his cost for divorce by mutual consent and you will go ahead for it.
No use filling complaint against him for domestic violence etc.that's waste of time and money. Forget seeking maintenance also from him as you are working, won't be allowed anything from court.
