my past relationship
khushi
(Querist) 16 November 2015
This query is : Resolved
Hello
Mera naam khushi hai.. meri marriage 14 nov' 2015 me hui hai. Mere husband ne mujhe shadi se pehle kafi bar pucha ki mera koi past hai to bta du. But maine mana kr dia. After six month unhe pta lag gaya ki mera past tha. Unhone mujhe believe dilaya ki wo mujhe rakh lenge magar sari baat paper pe bhi likh k de. Meri recording bhi hai unke pas.. mujhe marte bhi the. Ab kehte hai ki divorve de de. Mai tujhe one rs. Bhi nhi dunga or agar tune kuch bhi manga mujhse to tere likhe hue papet sab jagah distribute kr dunga dhoke se mujhe mere mummy k ghr chod k chae gaye.. mujhe ek jodi kapda bhi nhi dia
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 16 November 2015
The blunder U committed was to hide UR past life,which could have surfaced any time during UR marital life.
What would have been UR reaction it the case was vice versa,would U tolerate that,I presume no? He is not wrong in his behaviour,no husband will tolerate that his wife had previous relationships.Its human tendency.
Letters,recordings,evidences are part of the court proceedings.
Are parents of both the sides aware of the happennings?If so better all of U meet together and solve everything without legal problems.Already UR marital life must have been half ruined.
P. Venu
(Expert) 16 November 2015
It appears that things have reached a point of no return though, legally, the past should not have been an issue in the given circumstances.
If reconciliation is impossible, seeking mutual divorce is the best option.
Having said that, whatever your past and disclosures, your husband has no authority to misbehave with you. There are more than sufficient legal provisions which enable you to adopt a firm stand on the issue.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 16 November 2015
You are legally married wife, if no amicable settlement possible, may proceed legally for your rights.
alexander
(Expert) 16 November 2015
What happens before marrtiage may create doubts and spoil mariage relations between husband and wife. As you were unmarried before marriage, your marriage is perfectly legal and valid. Perhaps what happened with you before marriage was against your will by use of criminal force and under coercion.
Tell him that if he himself is pure like the freshly fallen snow, then he could throw the first stone even on a helpless woman who has been a victim of a coercioner and a criminal and there was no other way to save her life. Give sometime and then if he doesn't mellow down file a suit for maintenance to which you are entitled to not only till you get divorce but till you get remarried after divorce. Along with the maintenance you are entitled to hired accomodation and legal expenses for the Court procedures. Lessen the impact you have caused by giving the ' Highly Exaggerated' account which you have given in writing.
khushi
(Querist) 16 November 2015
Mere husband mere past ko nhi bhula pa rahe hai. And wo chahte hai ki mai bina kuch liye unhe divorce de du. Incase wo mujhe sab jagah badnaam kar denge.. uske baad result kuch bhi nikle. And he want ki divorce ke liye pehle mai bolu. Mere pehle bolne se unhe kya profit hoga?
