My wife refusing to live together...
gopinath
(Querist) 14 November 2013
This query is : Resolved
I married 5 years back and i have a 3 yrs old daughter & 1 yr old son. Ours was an arranged marriage.. My wife is an epilepsy Patient which I came to know in our first night when she had a seizure on bed. She takes pills 2 times a day. But I compromised with out any hesitation for a good family life.When she was carrying our first baby ,I went overseas for job.After one year I came back and went to another country for another job.When I returned on leave arranging family visa we together returned back to my work place.There she again got pregnant,and with a mutual understanding of getting good care ,I send her back to India.There she lived with my parents and always fought with them.So to release the mental tension I was suffering ,I requested her to go back to her parents and live peacefully,without enquiring whose fault was there in my home.She needs someone always to look after her. Also she was not comfortable in the home in which we were living.After giving birth to our younger child ,she again came back with me.At the airport she fell down with my child in her hand due to epileptic seizure.My son got injured his head.Again without complaining we started living together.But she seemed least comfortable here with me,she always wanted to go back to her parents.She always made some problems here,to tease me.Her parents always supported her in blaming me.They continuosly compelled her to came back to live with them.So again I send back her to India.Now she is saying ,she is undergoing medical treatment and she cannot even say when she can return back.I requested her to come back for atleast 1 week,so that her visa can be renewed .Then after I told her to go back to her parents and live there til our younger child is 2 yr old.Then also she is refusing to come back,and even she is not willing to say when she can be with me.She is asking rather compelling me to stay with her in her house.I told her,now it is not possible ,for atleast some years,since I am not financially sound right now.Her parents are not living a social life,which means they are not even in talking terms with their close relatives.I fear about my childrens future ,If they are staying with them.Please advise me to overcome this situation
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 14 November 2013
1. She could not live peacefully with your parents in India.
2. She is epilepsy patient.
3. She is comfortable at her parents' home.
4. She is not willing to join with you right now.
5. You are not in a position to come back to India in the near future to live with her. Even you come back, she wants that you should with her in her parents house which is not acceptable to you.
6. Your children 3 years and 1 year old.
7. Your in-laws social behaviour is such that they can not keep good relations with any body.
Looking into all the above facts, it is better for you to leave her alone with her parents for some more time. Even if she comes back she should be under constant observation due her nature of illness and you can not leave your children on her in your absence. It is already proved that if you leave your children in her hands, they are not safe. According to me it is the best option to leave her like this for some time till you are in a position to come back to India and settle the matters. In the meanwhile be tactful, keep good relations with her, show love and compassion. This is all the more necessary as she has to continue her medication and should keep your bond with your children in tact. Time only will solve certain problems. From your side you can make attempts to solve the problem after you are in a position to come back to India.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 14 November 2013
very well advised by malipeedi
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 14 November 2013
nothing more to add.
manoj joshi
(Expert) 14 November 2013
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Adv. Chandrasekhar
(Expert) 14 November 2013
Superb and sagacious advice by Sh. M. Jaggar Rao.
ABDUL RAZIQUE
(Expert) 14 November 2013
Excellent advice by MALIPEDDI JAGGARAO,there is nothing left to describe more.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 15 November 2013
Thanks to all of you sirs. Really I feel happy that all of you unanimously endorsed my piece of advice!
