Need legal suggestion because of my cruel wife
Ashoke
(Querist) 29 August 2011
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sir/Madam,
Me and my wife is from Orissa.
We are belongs to same religion and cast.
Our's was purely arranged marriage.
We got marray on Feb 2010. i.e. till now it shall be 1 year 6 month.
I am working in Bangalore in a MNC as Senior engineer since 3 and half years.
Before marriage my wife was working in Orissa since 3 years.
My qualification is MCA and my wife's is correspondence MBA.
I am 32 years old and my wife is 29 years old.
SUMMARY OF 1 YEAR AND 6 MONTHS OF MARRIAGE.
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After marriage,
1) 15 days in my native place.
2) She stayed 15 in her native place.
3) we stayed together in Bangalore for 4 months alone.
During this stay she mentally tourtured me. (Because her mother mind washed her to capture me as whole)
I slapped her once at the end of 4 months
We both went to native for my mother's ritual.
Their parents brought police to my home in native for tortore and police told to settel the matter outside.
Their parents brought her to their home.
4) She stayed for 8 months in her parents home.
5) She was doing job over their without my knowledge.
6) A dicussion was happend among their family members and ours regarding this which they wants to happen.
7) At that time all the matters as favour of us.
8) Shen again came back and we both and my father stated in Bangalore for 2 months.
9) Still her mother mind washed her. So little bit quarrel happed.
10) One day my wife drank surgical spirit from our fist-aid box and tried to do suicide. (I guessed it was suggested by her
mother. Because she knows my father was there and she can be immediately admiteed to hospital. And was also drinking very
less amount of spirit.)
11) Again Bangalore police came to hospital as the process, told to settle it down in home.
12) Their parents came to Bangalore which was also planned i know, and take her to Orissa to their home from hospital.
13) She was therir since 1 month.
14) She was now talking all the false things to me and others which was not happned at all.
15) We bothe are taling everyday, but she is forcing me to take her back to Bangaore and do the agrrement to keep her happy.
POINTS TO BE NOTE
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1) Me and other peoples who involved in discussion were knew that their patents having bad mentallity.
2) My wife believes their parent more than anybody in the world.
3) My wife is a big lier i have ever seen.
4) I am guessing she has some mentally unstability problem.
5) She don't have any family values and sence of taling with me.
6) Two times i faced police because of her, but she told to police not to arrest.
7) She is waring me to do legal case if i didn't sign legal aggrement and take her back to Bangalore.
8) She is also don't agree for mutual divorce also.
Kindly suggest me what to do. Each and every moment I was in affraid of being arrest.
I shall be happy to stay alone in life because i was brought up from boarding school.
But i want to be freed, not bind by any legal things.
QUESTIONS
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1) How can i tackle my wife, so that she shall not put any case against me?
2) If she put any case, i don't want to go to jail (may be anticipactory bail).
3) I am ready to attend hearings in court in Orissa, but want to continue my job in Bangalore.
2) I also don't want her back, because she is dangerous to me now and even shall be in future if she come back to me.
M/s. Y-not legal services
(Expert) 30 August 2011
My advise is to initiate the divorce proceedings under cruelty ground.. With this mind set both you are not eligible for matrimonial tie..
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 30 August 2011
If you dont want to bring her and no conciliation is taking place properly then wait for their action. It is better to settle the things amiably.
Ashoke
(Querist) 30 August 2011
Thanks a lot for reply.
As Mr. raj kumar suggested, i also want to settle the things amiably. That's why still now i am talking to her everyday.
As Mr. tom.advocate suggested for divorce proceedings, my question here is if i shall start this, then i knew she must put 498a and may be some other like 306. Once that action was initiated from their side how to handle those situations?
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 30 August 2011
One way or the other if possible get her mentally checked up by an authorized Dr. to sail smoothly and to coup with problems she is creating or may create in future.
mahendrakumar
(Expert) 30 August 2011
have you tried a family counselling?>
If not go for the same,if possible.
have an introspection,whether your boarding education or descipline is the real villain?
girish shringi
(Expert) 31 August 2011
This kind of case never to be solved easily,better to go for divorce because she can't be controlled by virtue of talks.
That is my opinion. I have seen in my life.
Ashoke
(Querist) 04 September 2011
If i shall go for divorce, then i must mention the ground of divorce i.e. cruelty. But then she must put 498a so that she became cruel because of dowry and harassment. Is this correct? If yes, then which case shall continue in court (divorce or 498a) or both? I think 498a. Please correct me if i am wrong.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 04 September 2011
498a can be filled even if there is no case of divorce from you ,it would be her action. At least i can not anticipate every problem hypothetically.
girish shringi
(Expert) 06 September 2011
Two different cases are there it may go together in different courts.
If you file DV before 498 you will be having the straightway,upper hand in the case.
