Parents fixed my marriage without my consent
saloni nagar
(Querist) 14 September 2018
This query is : Resolved
hello all, I am 24 year girl i m in love with a guy is 27 year old we both are belongs to same caste even surnames are also same. (nagar). but my parents are not agreed they say that boy lookwise is not good as comapred to me. he is job oriented person and doing job in indore. i tried to convience them but they threatens me and doing emotional blackmail and fix my marriage forcefully with other guy. what can i do in this situation ??is any forced marriage law have in india ??
Plz reply fast
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 14 September 2018
You're big enough to take your own decision with regard to marriage as it's you who have to live for life with the person not your parents, however as mature and experienced persons they can guide you. Just because person whom you like is not good looking is no excuse for rejecting him as your husband, if he is well educated, working and can look after you as his wife there should not be any objections for this proposal.
You may again try to convince your parents for this proposal and even tell them about your final decision for this person. You may even inform them that you're living in domestic relationships in a shared household with them and their act of forcing marriage with a person not of your choice will amount to act of domestic violence towards you for which your can make formal complaint against them.
Hope this will make them understand you and will convince them for marriage with person of your choice.
saloni nagar
(Querist) 14 September 2018
Thank you sir... for ur valueable advice
Guest
(Expert) 14 September 2018
So far as law is concerned, since you have already attained majority, law permits in advance to marry anyone you prefer. But law cannot compel your parents to give their consent. However, law won't come to your rescue ay the time if any untoward incident occurs to you. That way, law lags much behind of all. That appears only after damage is done. If you try to take help of police by lodging any complaint that is likely to strain your relations much more with your own elders. Consensual marriage is always much better.
So, better try to get consent of your parents and other elders through of your confidante.
Rest depends upon your own wisdom.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 15 September 2018
Reconsider your decision to reject the bridegroom, no parents would (past, present and future) ever approve the boy who is incompatible to their daughter, wherein you will have to compromise for your dream partner. The opinion is "out of law".
Legally no one (including your parents) can compel you to accept the boy to marry, you can reject the proposal and face the consequences.
Guest
(Expert) 15 September 2018
Dear Sudhir Kumar,
Apparently, if surname of both is 'Nagar', the gotra cannot be different.
However, on what legal angle you want to reply is known to me. But before that, you may better go through her earlier queries posted four years (2014) before this query. You would find the truth to what extent she has narrated the facts. As per her profile, she is a student.
As per one of her earlier questions, she was being forced even four years before to marry someone else other than her BF, and now also the same position. Before four years, she was 21 and her boy friend was 24, now in these 4 years, both could grow old merely for 3 years (not 25 and 28).
Also, 4 years ago, she wanted to file a case against her parents.
When she got appropriate advice from various experts 4 years ago, what she wants now from the experts, can be anybody's guess..
She is posting merely student's query, as has already been pointed out by me, along with contradictions. at the following thread 4 years earlier:
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/can-i-leave-my-parents-house-and-live-with-my-boyfriend-and-his-family-512406.asp
Before my first response above, I could not go through her profile page and questions. So, replied in good faith. I am of the view, she is not coming out with facts with appropriate background of the case, even if there is any slightest truth in his story. She seems to be posting academic queries.
No objection, if you want to convey the legal position of the proposed marriage based on the gotra.of the couple. But must see, how the students try to hoodwink the experts.
A. A. JOSE
(Expert) 15 September 2018
You are rightly exposed by learned Shri.Dhi gra. It is obvious that you have repeated a fititious query after 4 years! Even if your problem is factually correct , why do I again need fresh advise from the experts without acting as per earlier guidance?
