Plan to cancel marriage after engagement
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Anonymous
(Querist) 13 August 2018
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Hello Sir, I'm the groom.
Few months back my parents found a bride in Matrimony portal on January 2018 [resident of Bangalore, & origin is Tamil].
Our engagement happened on April 2018. [We wanted a family girl who doesn't work. Luckily she was 1 year free after completing her graduation and was jobless.]
Some background History :
From the beginning [till engagement] the father of the bride was not actively speaking with my parents or me.
Only her mother used to interact. She speaks to me over the phone often [Takes more time than Bride over phone].
I respect my elders, so I can't cut the call abruptly, so , I kept listening to all her conversations.
But, She always speaks bad about her Husband's family. How they tortured her. How they tried to stop her marriage.
She always praises about erself on how as a single woman she brought up her daughter.
One fine day before engagement the below conversation happened :
Bride's Mom : I want my daughter to work. She doesn't have value for work & money.
Me : We wanted a girl who doesn't work and take care of family very well.
Bride's Mom : Yes. I know. But, she should understand the importance of money and how difficult it is outside.
Also, she wants to clear her education loan by herself.
Me : She graduated a year back. Why she hasn't found a job all these time.
Bride's Mom : According to her horoscope her time is not good. Now she has good time to get even a stable Govt. Jobs as well.
Me : But Aunty, I don't want my wife to work. Are you asking her to work for educational loan alone ? If so i can take care of the loan.
Bride's Mom : No no. It will be very bad for me to put the loan on groom, I will never do that. I asked you only for her to realize the importance of money.
And the hardships we face to earn it. If you are not happy let's leave this topic.
After Engagement [Father started to get along well after engagement] :
My Fiance suddenly calls me and say's, I need to work. I got a notice. To pay educational loan.
I asked, we agreed that you won't work right ? Why suddenly you are changing the plan ?
She said, even you agreed to pay the educational loan.
I was confused. I'm in middle of office work and she was very nervous.
I don't remember signing a stamp paper to anyone that I'll bear it.
Still, I'm kind hearted. I asked her to calm down and said, "Please ask you parents to pay minimum emi at least. After marriage I'll pay the balance.
I never refused. I just told, I can't give you any money before marriage. My parents won't be happy. After , marriage I'll pay it.
She was blackmailing, If you trust me then pay now. Else police will catch me. I need to goto work.
I directly told, Inform my parents about this.
After a while, her father called me. Asking that i only agreed to pay the loan. And conversation went on This way.
From this day my life is messed up. I was called as cheater and faker for not paying the loan. They have our gold ornaments worth 1.5 Lakhs [that we gave for engagement] and still call me as cheater.
From that date till now lot's of cheap things they started to do. Lot's of meaningless arguments. I can't resist. They try to pull my mount. They Irritate me during sleep.
I NEED AN EXPERT ADVISE HERE.
I HAVE MANY MORE DATA TO ADD BUT THE DATA IS SOO HUGE THAT ILL END UP WRITTING A LITTLE BOOK IN THIS PORTAL
Please help me in correct direction. What they can do next. How I can protect myself from these kind of scams.
Guest
(Expert) 13 August 2018
Repeated query.
Already replied at the following thread:
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/Plan-to-cancel-marriage-after-engagement-689196.asp
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 13 August 2018
Repeated question
