Please advice me sir
HK
(Querist) 09 May 2024
This query is : Resolved
My wife, who has epilepsy, is egoistic, narcissistic, and often rude, leading to frequent arguments. Her parents have advised against stressing her, fearing it could trigger an attack which may result injury. She doesn't consider our marriage valid, doesn't want children, and behaves as she is unmarried, causing tension with me and my father. When we try to reason with her, she threatens to involve her parents, who always support her and use rough words. The pressure from her parents makes it difficult to communicate. If I consider separation or divorce, she will surely take stress in her mind, possibly leading to an serious epilepsy attack, and as a result her parents would blame me or may file complaint. I feel overwhelmed and depressed. What should I do?.
(One more thing - My wife travels to the office daily, and her parents want me to leave my dad and rent a place near her office. I don't want to leave my dad. If something happens due to epilepsy attack during her travel, her parents will again blame me or file a complaint.) kindly suggest
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 09 May 2024
You are a husband to her it does not means that you will give her protection for 24 hours
Your duty towards taking care of your father is also simultaneously an essential one, hence you cannot be asked to ignore your duty towards your parents just because you are marruied.
If the situatuioin is intolerable then you can very well take a decisio to disoslve this marriage by a decree of divorce .
You are not responsible for her diseases or any chronic ailments which are existing in her even before she got married to you.
Therefore yo may decide about further course of action as per the prevailing circumstances without taking a side towards her on sympathy or on fear.
kavksatyanarayana
(Expert) 09 May 2024
Yes. You can take her to the psychiatrist and neurologist for treatment. Through treatment with the doctors, she may turn to something normal and also it is proof that you have not disowned her. Even then she threatens you may go legally against her. Your responsibility is not only to your wife but also to your parents. So you can decide on the present circumstances.
HK
(Querist) 10 May 2024
Thank you so much, sir
