Please help me!
Karishma
(Querist) 21 February 2013
This query is : Resolved
Ours was an arranged married that was held in July 2011. I had hardly known the guy, but he spoke well and came across as a sincere, hardworking, respectable, loving man. From the start he told me his family is important to him, but I did not make much of it, as fair enough the family should be important. The courtship period lasted for 5 months, and we live in different cities, not once did he come to visit me. I had gone twice to see him. I got a shock after marriage. The honeymoon period itself was bad. He was constantly on the phone talking to his sister in law. Once back from honeymoon she made it a point to make my life miserable. She would tell me something, then say something opposite to my husband and thus create fights between us. I also suspect them of having some sort of relation, though I am not sure, as he is impotent. He would get drunk every night and abuse and insult me. He has done it publicly also. Apart from the first month there has been no physical contact between us, even then he wasn’t able to sustain it and would just roll over and say sorry. we managed to have sex only twice from the 10-12 times we tried. I was just like a domestic help in his house. Cooking, cleaning, dusting, washing utensils. If I complained about anything I would be called a spoilt girl. My upbringing was questioned time and again and my parents abused. He even slapped me once in his drunken state and has threatened to cause me harm at other times. I wasn’t given proper food and would hide and eat. I took all his nonsense for 10 months and finally left his house, because if I had stayed there I would have done something to myself, I had reached that state. Everytime he got drunk (which was almost everyday) he would often ask me to end the marriage, go back to my parents house or give him a divorce. But once I came to my parents house, he started sending me love letters and emails asking me to come back to him and how he loves me so much. But again everytime he spoke to me on the phone he abused me and asked me to give him a divorce. He then said he will end the marriage amicably, then after few days he sent me a RCR, putting all false allegations against me. He expects me to ask for a divorce. What should I do? My lawyer is saying we will file for a divorce. But the case will go on for 3 years or more. I don’t want to waste anymore of my time with him. Please help me with the best solution. thankyou
Adv Vikramsinh Mohite
(Expert) 21 February 2013
Instead of making exaggerated allegations against him, go for mutual divorce.
Karishma
(Querist) 21 February 2013
Sir, this is what i faced for the 10 months that i was living with him. these are no exaggerated allegations. i have suffered alot at the hands of this man and his family! he put all the false allegations against me to safe guard himself from giving me any alimony, why should i leave him. i need some justice.
Kiran Kumar
(Expert) 21 February 2013
Well your lawyer is right in observing that the process for grant of divorce is a lengthy one and still there is no surety that you will be given the necessary decree.
If the facts stated by you are correct and you have got some sort of evidence against the erring persons, then better use coercive methods to bring them on table so that the marriage could be dissolved by way of mutual consent.
Ask your lawyer for initiating criminal action against the in laws, so that a pressure is created upon them to settle the matter at the earliest.
Karishma
(Querist) 21 February 2013
Yes the facts mentioned by me are correct. i also forgot to mention, they have still got my jewellery, passport and my other belongings.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 21 February 2013
If cannot adjust; go for MCD
