Protection require-urgent help !!
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Anonymous
(Querist) 07 September 2011
This query is : Resolved
Dear All,
My name is S****(Female) and belongs to U.P. , I need your help guys, my father is forcing me for Marriage but I don’t want to marry with that boy to whom they have selected. I have told to my parents many time but they are forcing me & giving threat of killing.
Now finally I came to Hyderabad for Job and stayed in PG , I have informed the same to my parents 3 days back that I didn’t want to marry and came to Hyderabad. I am contactable and responding their calls now they are asking about my address but I refused b’coz I am afraid that they will come here and can do anything with me.
I have registered my case at NCW & thinking to register the case at nearest Police Station…please suggest what all I can do for my safety.
Simple question “DON’T I HAVE RIGHTS TO LIVE MY LIFE IN MY OWN STYLE”
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 07 September 2011
Yes, you are right.
No body including your parents can force to marry you as long as you do not agree.
So do not worry. You have already taken precautionary measures.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 07 September 2011
yes it is your life and you have right to decide to whom you wan to get married . but our parents are our well wishers and they always want the best for us . tell your parents the shorcomings you find in the boy selected for you . request them to fix a partner for you after mutual consultations . you can contact a women cell in your area and take their guidance
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 07 September 2011
Dear Ajay,
First they are not finding best for me…2nd I don’t think so the parents who loves to their daughter , can use abusive laguage and give threat of killing.
On daily basis I am thinking that they will come here and don’t know what will they do with me….
Advocate M.Bhadra
(Expert) 07 September 2011
Lodge a diary to the local police informing the facts with a copy serve to the S.P.also.You may also submit a complain to the State women Commission.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 08 September 2011
Dear Ms.S***
What is your age and what is educational back ground? What is the economic and financial status of your parents? Since you are already left the home, the threat is reduced. They would have realized by this time, nothing will work by leashing threats. My suggestion is to think of the advice of Mr.Ajay cooly. I will give some more inputs to tackle the problem. You must be having some relative on whom you and your family can depend for resolving the issue. Involve them and invite them to your place and discuss the problem with them. Explain the reasons for your stand. Ask them to negotiate with your parents only to diffuse the tension. Send message through them that you have not left the home and only trying to stand on your own by finding a job in Hyderabad. Tell that you are not against your parents but only against their decision which is not suitable to you giving reasons. Be a part of the family. Temporarily you might be having problem with your family. But they are the people who brought you up till now. Communication is very important. Closing communications will create more problems. So communicate with them through reliable source and assure that you are safe, you are not against them and you are trying to stand on your own. Also assure them except the proposed boy, whom you did not accept by giving reasons, you are ready to accept the decision of your parents if the other proposal if any, is suitable to you psychologically. Or seek some more time for this. If you have any boy in your mind, discuss with your parents and give reasons for your decision. Your decision might not be correct because of the inexperience. Then they will come out with their reasons for not accepting your proposal. Parents may not be as intelligent as you, but they are not your enemies. Bring down your own emotions for some time and give a re-thinking with cool mind. Still if you feel, the advice is not suitable (as we do not know the ground realities), you take assistance of women protection cell (browse the net for their contact) and take shelter/protection under their guidance.
Good luck.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 08 September 2011
You are advised to follow malipeddi.i
Guest
(Expert) 08 September 2011
I also agree with the opinion of experts.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 08 September 2011
Every major citizen has right to live his life in his/her own way.
SO YOU ALSO HAVE IF YOU ARE MAJOR BY AGE and not a subject to concept of a legal guardian ship.
BUT parents bring up us and feel that they are under social duty to marry their daughter,for which they almost do tooth and nail to find a boy which in their opinion would be best as a match for their daughter,which some time unfolds true and some time terns hell ,but no body can ever
think that parents do not think as well wishers.
You have not explained the reason as to why you are opposed to the choice of parents,i guess, even to your parents.
These are the days where things are changing fast and in the pressure of carrier making the topic of emotional management at both ends are going poor and poor day by day.
In my sincere advise you should find out
the reason of refusal and should make it conveyed to your parents by a dialog arranged with them by a suitable media intermingled with you and your parents.
If you have chosen some one that should also be communicated to them with healthy reasons of your choice.
Parents are Parents they will understand you unless there is some orthodox getting hurt for which they are mentally unprepared,so let them understand you and you understand them,and take peaceful cool decision,not swept by teens whips,as choosing a life partner is a very serious issue and calls for several considerations,
which often teens ignore to see ill outcomes of their whipped decisions.
Wish you a happy peaceful and successful life.
M/s. Y-not legal services
(Expert) 08 September 2011
