Secure place
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Anonymous
(Querist) 24 June 2023
This query is : Resolved
I,m a 32 yrs old unemployed grad.I was good at my studies in engineering.In my 5 th sem lost my father, financial crisis could not afford tution , engineering career devastated.For financial security helped sister and brother ,give a break to my studies,cooked food .After they got little settled ,I again started my preparation for govt exam .My sister 31, unemployed ,dependent and abusive .After my brother 's job ,the way he shared costly sweets sister threw 2 of my engineering books out of window saying ab paiso ki kya jarurat,she is mad ,I no more share my books.I repeatedly ask my mother a secure place as it's very disturbing ,mother denies as worried about my security as well as she can't manage her alone .My brother once saved me from her as she felt tensed ,as I told she has to earn for herself and choked my neck ,pricking her thumb on to my face.I was shocked why and what she was thinking , she has decided she will not read as brother has a job .Other aspirants preparing to their level best for a good future ,me too but looking at my sister it worries me if I make money she will take mine ,like I 'm her servant she is abusive.I ask my mother to keep her in a separate place away from me or a separate place for me.Its only my brother whom she is afraid of,me and my mother she can easily handle.My mother cooks for her ,if food not there she will eat what ever available mine also.Last year for some job I became ineligible due to my age,mother and brother suddenly went for a vacation to puri for 5 days without much food arrangement ,next morning when food was not available sister started threatening me .As my brother had taught I closed her in her room ,but how much time afternoon out of hunger she violently shouted I informed my mother, in evening via parcel sent food.It disturbed ,me a lot my full focus shifted from studies to security .I faced lot of pressure ,I repeatedly ask my mother if you guys go out make some arrangements a separate home so that I don't feel unsafe .She always denies.My brother 's boss called him to Hyderabad he went for 1 week ,next for a month he told him to stay 6 months he informed about my sister and came back .When I ask him for a safe arrangement as he has to repeatedly go,he says you have already stayed with her before and doesn't pay attention to my complains,he himself closes her in her room because of meeting and her disturbances.Now how I will ensure a safety. I tell them if they don't help me I will be forced to take legal help.For me it's very essential to have a safe place ,where without any stress I will do my preparation and help my mother as well .when they see I can't do anything , a girl ,has no money , they have started taking me for granted,my mother out of stress specifically denies any financial help if ask for a separate house.Mother has got my father's job on compassionate ground ,I don't want to disturb her but due to sister ,things become stressful .Iam forced to think about my safety .They often go out on trips leaving me alone with her,my brother is getting used to this he goes for a month .It's dangerous as my sister stays silent when my brother is there and other times she forces .She doesn't study because of my brother job and if not she will eat from me and my mother ,throws utensils,clothes,if doesn't get food.She is 1 year younger than me ,31. Whatever book say a magazine or a newspaper she finds after 1 day you will not find it in house it will be thrown.Only my brother can correct or punish her when he is out no one can handle her she is getting used to it, at times I feel she needs a strict instructor and restriction .He also doesn't give her any books.We can't force her to study , that's very stressful someone forcefully threatens you for her expenses .I'm unemployed dependent but trying some way .By punishment she was controlled but as my brother goes out every month she is again changing.She thinks if mom is not ther she will threaten me for her food arrangements.I want to do my own arrangements ,I ' m in middle of my preparation ,if one job is over let's try for others if nothing teaching jobs are there it all needs focused preparation ,I 'm already there I have to continue and complete it.For that you need to stay away from these kind of people .What I can do.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate 
(Expert) 24 June 2023
The problem is more social than legal.
Law only says that you call police as and when she threatens you.
kavksatyanarayana
(Expert) 24 June 2023
Your mother and brother shall take her to mental counseling. Take the help of your brother and mother. Still, she threatens you to make a complaint against her as advised by the expert Sri Sudhik Kumar Sir.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 24 June 2023
A long story narrated here though there is no legal suggestion that can bring any solace to you.
You may have to take action on the basis of prevailing circumstances
Dr. J C Vashista
(Expert) 25 June 2023
Be brief and specific for consideration and obligation of experts.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 26 June 2023
Thankyou so much sir
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Anonymous
(Querist) 27 June 2023
But mother and brother are not cooperating. Mother is already doing a lot and brother has a job out of state .Sir they are getting careless about me and if I don't do anything I may be in trouble .Sir if I stay separately, mother will be in trouble so she is not arranging anything nor helping .Sir I don't
have the required finance or I would have taken that step asking my mother to stay with me.Still she is not ready .
My time is precious ,mother is getting old ,she will retire after 2 years,I really don't have much time . Sir I didn't neglect my studies in engineering,I performed well ,got good marks but upto 4th sem .From 4th sem branch subject and difficult ones starts.You need have to a teacher either college or tuitions or you can't understand.After father ,situation changed all of a sudden, finance problem. This is my second chance to try for the best possible future sir and I know I can but it will take time.
kavksatyanarayana
(Expert) 27 June 2023
Amicablly settle your issue. If you are a major try to legal earnings separately.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 17 July 2023
How to Handle a Toxic Relationship with a Sibling
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Medically reviewed by Timothy J. Legg, PhD, PsyD
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— By Amber Petty
If the relationship isn’t directly threatening, there are ways to try to make the relationship work
Now, if the sibling has threatened or physically hurt you, Fuller says it’s best to remove yourself from their life right away. It’s not worth risking your own safety for a family relationship.
Takeaway: It’s not forever, but distance is healthy
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Anonymous
(Querist) 17 July 2023
Meaning of LIFE under Article 21 is given an expansive and liberal construction
such as to include, the right to live with dignity, right to shelter, right to basic
needs and even the right to reputation. This meaning is applicable.
• ‘PHYSICAL SAFETY’ means the likelihood of assault to physical existence of a
person.
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Anonymous
(Querist) 17 July 2023
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