Single daughters right to visit her parents after marriage
Guest
(Querist) 06 January 2020
This query is : Resolved
Me and my husband are living in mangalore. Once in a while we visit our parents living in kerala. Vacation will be for 15 to 20 days. My husband is working and hence he will stay back only for 5 or 6 days. I am a home maker so he will leave me and my daughter in his house. Though the vacation will be for 15 to 20 days. I am not allowed to visit my parents and stay with them for 3 to 4 days. My parents home is just 7km away from my matrimonial house and I am their only child. My mom's right leg got fractured and my dad takes care of all the household chores. Still my mom in law says that after marriage the daughter in law is supposed to stay in her husband's house only. She says that I may visit them but should return back the same day itself. And that whenever I want to visit my parents I should get her permission. My husband and dad in law has no problem with me visiting my parents. But both of them never dared to speak for me. I am feeling depressed and guilty. Is there any legal solution to this problem.
Hemant Agarwal
(Expert) 06 January 2020
1. IF you opt for "Legal Solutions" in such trivial matter, THEN obviously you are going to spoil your well-settled married life. Hence reconsider your thoughts for legal action.
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K Rajasekharan
(Expert) 06 January 2020
There is neither any clear law nor any principles of jurisprudence which govern such matters coming under social relationship in a married life which is built upon many years of social evolution. The practice and procedure of such matters cannot be legislated upon by the legislature. It has to be formulated by the skilful and strategic intervention of the stakeholders involved in the family.
Many parents unduly pamper their lone child in the early days and influence their actions even after marriage. That would create a lot of problems to the members in the matrimonial house. Therefore in such cases the husband or his parents may put some restrictions on the wife so as to avoid unnecessary clashes.
Whatever be the reasons, you will have to explore such reasons more and work out a strategic solution by rebuilding your interaction with him. You and your parental family alone can address this matter.
Asking a lawyer to address this problem may put you to more troubles than you have now. This is mainly because a lawyer has nothing to do in this matter because there is no infringement of any law as such in this case.
KISHAN DUTT KALASKAR
(Expert) 07 January 2020
Dear madam
Such act of your husband and parents-in- law comes within the definition of cruelty . Instead of making a big issue , you may get issued a legal notice to them in pressing upon to facilitate you to stay in your parent's house for a week or so for every 6 months. If no permission is granted you may five a domestic violence case before magistrate and get permission.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 07 January 2020
I have no different opinion than already provided by my seniors.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 08 January 2020
No dispute is involved in the query for consideration and obligation of experts. Even then experts have provided adequate information, noting more to add.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 08 January 2020
Respected Dr. Vashista is right in his observation. It is generally observed that the experts are taking more pain than the authors of the queries which is very surprising. Some experts even provide their expert opinion in the following words:
'Consult local lawyer".
What an expert opinion!
P. Venu
(Expert) 09 January 2020
I am surprised that the query has come from a Keralite where it has always been the social custom that, upon marriage, the a daughter is not alienated from her parents and the family. So also, it has never been considered a taboo for the married daughter along with husband and children, to continue to stay with the parents. In the present times, the son-in-law considers parents-in-law in the same footing as parents.
Facts posted suggest that constraint is restricted to the attitude of your mother-in-law. It could be that your husband is the only child. Any how, wisdom is in consider this as a trivial issue and let it not rock your marital life.
Needless to state, the posting suggests no legal elements or issues.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 15 January 2020
This is not a very serious issue.
If you want to take it up legally then your relationship in the married life will get strained causing more anxious moments thereafter.
You can always establish your rights to visit your mother's house disobeying your mother in law but the harmony will be spoiled.
You should somehow manage to tackle such trivial issues intelligently instead of seeking legal opinion.
Better adjust to the situation or you can opt for legal action by filing a domestic violence case against your mother in law.
