Suggestion to close the love relationship
AV
(Querist) 21 July 2015
This query is : Resolved
Girl had five years relationship with me, she almost lived as my wife and introduced her self into my family and society as my wife, and going to marry soon, due to some incidents i did not agreed to marry her without intimating her parents, then we both agreed for the plan that, her parents may not accept immediately but they will understand our love soon, if that is not happen in year and no positive signs, I can get her by showing, proofs like medical ( termination), photos, chat, emails etc., as my wife, if they are not allowed her to come and house arrested.
as per plan, she told her parents, they created hungama, filed case and given warnings etc., but i never ever say anything by letting them or her down, by assuming they are going to be my family soon, they hurt my parents too, and we all supported her not disclosing anything strict to the plan, but she turned completely, and filed case on me, and told her parents about photos, things which I and her have personnel emotions, according to me no child can share such things with parents, and I have given everything back by understanding her, as she might come later, but she changed her contact, job, house, and completely abscond and unreachable, recently I came to know that she has cheated me, through her classmate and ex collogues, but i did not go on her friends words, after knowing the fact that whom she introduced me as her best friends from college (they are 7 girls) and knowing about them, I understand there is possibility of cheating, as her all friends have lovers more than 5 years, few changed more than 3 people in span, and two of them who involved in the drama of the whole of our story deeply, said recently, “why you are disturbing her or trying to connect her, just feel fuck and forget, we all do same, it seems you are not finding any girl that’s why you are trying to connect her”, in fact, when one of her classmate reached her home to help me, she called from her mobile and said I am following her like dog, then I have decided that there is no point of trying to connect her, and all her friends married other guy by acting innocents, fortunately all this would not even know by their parents. It looks software culture, and more attract towards fashion world and lighting life.
Due to all this, I have tried my best to forgot her, but since she already behaved as my wife in society, facing situation like every known person asking about her, and not getting any wedding proposals too :-), which my parents and family so worried, being Vice President of fortune 500 company, few seniors and well-wishers suggested to close this by looking the trends of legal issues, and her fickle mentality, she might be come back anytime if she is not satisfied and decide to hurt me by showing proofs and knowingly she will win over, which can affect me professionally and personally, I have tried my best effort to close this smoothly last one year, but no luck. How could I close this legally and make sure it will not hit me in future. Please suggest.
FYI. i have proofs that where i spend more than 5 lakhs on her + there are cash loans for her family needs, and have purchased vehicle on her name, open Partnership firm and did business, now I close the operation, did some donations on both names.
Advocate Kappil Cchandna
(Expert) 21 July 2015
Sir,
I don't feel you are required to do anything at this stage, let her come if she wanted to come and then only you show your defense.
Warm Regards
Kapil Chandna Advocate
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AV
(Querist) 21 July 2015
Hello Kapil chandna,
Generally i am person, like try and put your best to do the things if won't work, just leave it as it may not be your way, no point loosing the character, at the end your attitude is you. in this issue also i pud my best, but i can't force anyone, if she want to live with me she would come, and no point of waiting for her, if she is explicitly not responding, and i have taken it light and relaxed let time will decide the matter.
But what if she come back after i married another girl and does the drama? through i married a girl by telling all this also, i don't think women will take such things simple after knowing the whole issue too.
i have too look my professional career, it's one simple statement is enough for media, to spread issue.
another worry is financial matters like, vehicle, loans, Partnership firm, etc.,
i tried to talk to their elders to seek help and process smoothly, but no usage, i can find her and go to their home and did the thing what i want, but what if she married another boy, her life will be trouble, i want this to be close without making any hungama, and should be clear legally too.
thanks.
AV
(Querist) 21 July 2015
Hello Kapil chandna,
Generally i am person, like try and put your best to do the things if won't work, just leave it as it may not be your way, no point loosing the character, at the end your attitude is you. in this issue also i pud my best, but i can't force anyone, if she want to live with me she would come, and no point of waiting for her, if she is explicitly not responding, and i have taken it light and relaxed let time will decide the matter.
But what if she come back after i married another girl and does the drama? through i married a girl by telling all this also, i don't think women will take such things simple after knowing the whole issue too.
i have too look my professional career, it's one simple statement is enough for media, to spread issue.
another worry is financial matters like, vehicle, loans, Partnership firm, etc.,
i tried to talk to their elders to seek help and process smoothly, but no usage, i can find her and go to their home and did the thing what i want, but what if she married another boy, her life will be trouble, i want this to be close without making any hungama, and should be clear legally too.
thanks.
Advocate Kappil Cchandna
(Expert) 21 July 2015
Sir,
If that be so, then you guys can make a formal agreement and close this issue or you can send her a formal communication, I mean email or through a lawyer to ensure that things be clear between both of you.
See even if she comes sometime later in future, then the burden would be on her to prove that you were legally wedded, though there are certain presumptions which are applicable, but that does not suffice her being married to you.
Warm Regards
Kapil Chandna Advocate
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AV
(Querist) 22 July 2015
Hi Kapil,
i sent an email more than tent times, to her and her brother, tried to speak her father about the same, and i wrote clear letter to her father in his mother language, but they are not responding.
they have tried to give a warning through higher official of Police department, showing all this proofs recently, but when i met him, and he understand the whole issue, he simple step back, and told them to close something like what you suggested, but they are like agonies.
my humble and politeness, are their advantages, and they clearly know that they would trouble me later also, as a proof of their intention is, that they did not even destroyed any copy of proof that they took from me, an year ago.
i am also losing my kind wits, do i have any option that i can send a notice through court, so that they can come for compromise for closure.
thanks,
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 22 July 2015
query too long.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 22 July 2015
At this stage there is no other option for U than to just sit and wait for sometime.Any wrong step from U would further escalate the problem,hence have patience.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 22 July 2015
You can wait till she marriage with another person and end the matter, be calm till then. You can not force her to be partner without her wish.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 25 July 2015
Actually you are worrying abut a non-existent thing , atleast now.
If at all she had any grievances against you, she must have either approached you or the law enforcing authorities. She chose to remain silent, it means she is occupied or engaged to some other thing ignoring you and your past affairs with her.
Now it is your time to maintain silence instead of making a hue and cry over it.
Wait and watch the developments and then decide about next course of action accordingly.
