Threatening by in laws
Shlok
(Querist) 03 August 2012
This query is : Resolved
Hello all respected members and readers. WIth all due respect, iam writing this not biased to anyone but just referring to my case of threatenings by my inlaws.
I got married an year back and in just few days got to see the bad behaviour of my wife and negligence of my inlaws to my family in all respects.
As the time passed I started getting lot of threatening of police with false complaints and i started involving her parents and brothers thinking they would counsel and help.
Instead they asked me to send her back to her native place but me and my family denied but tomorrow on the pretext of Raksha Bandhan her brother took her to her native place and when I enquired about when she will return her father abused me and said that now she will not return also now they have communicated through some channel that they are powerful guys and are threatening me with dire consequences.
They also have claimed false allegations of me harrassing my wife, which is false. I have decided i need a divorce as im from a simple family and not used to such threatening.
NOTE: I HAVE NOT TAKEN SINGLE PENNY IN MARRIAGE
The aim of my inlaws is now to just mentally harass me and get even with me .. but i dont know for what. I never took anything from them and the day we got marrid
Following are my questions:
1. How do i safe guard myself, parents with false 498a case and other false cases.
Note: i have planned to ask my father to safe guard himself by giving a statement to the DCP of our nearest police station of all what is going on.
2. How do i proceed to plan for divorce. They are already planning to mentally harass me by talking of my property that i acquired before my marriage.
3, If iam the first to proceed to ask for divorce will i have to pay huge money and how much.
4, SInce my wife is with her father and he has not responded to any calls or emails, im not sure what to do next.
5. Also I wanted the custody of my daughter who is just 04 months old since my wife is not breast feeding her so there is no need of her to be with my wife.
Please help..
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 05 August 2012
You have now clarified what was her behavior which you feel to be “bad behavior”. Some persons have their own definition of bad behavior. At times insisting of human rights is treated as bad behavior.
You have stated that there were threatening by the police. This does not happen unless there is a complaint to police. You have not specified as to how and what complaint was made and what was the outcome.
You have stated that you have not taken ” NOT TAKEN SINGLE PENNY IN MARRIAGE”. that does not mean that you did not expect the same.
You have alleged “negligence of my inlaws to my family in all respects”.
What does this indicate that you did not like them to “neglect” your family “all respects”
You have confessed that
“Instead they asked me to send her back to her native place but me and my family denied but tomorrow on the pretext of Raksha Bandhan her brother took her to her native place”
You are at one point of time stating that you were getting threatened by the police and on the same time you also say that you want a divorce. On the same time you also say that you did not allow her to visit parents. While brother had to use Raksha Bandahn as a pretext it clearly indicates that you were not allowing her to visit parents which itself indicates clearly that you were not treating her well.
You have also stated that “I have decided i need a divorce as im from a simple family and not used to such threatening”
My dear,
she went on Raksha Bandhan which is four days back and you posted this query two days back. In just two days you have decided that you need a divorce. No the thought of divorce might have been hovering on your mind even when you were deciding not to allow her to go to parents.
You know that divorce will not be a cake walk. So far you have not stated any ground for divorce. It is no ground for divorce if you claim your family to be simple and so simple that you do not allow your wife to visit her parents and yet do not want any complaint to the police.
Getting custody of below 5 child from mother will not be so easy merely if you claim (even if you can prove) that she is not breast feeding.
First of all try to make some introspection how things went wrong and how far you and your family was responsible.
Many families like you have shed their ego and saved the home from breaking.
