Wife torture
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 11 September 2011
This query is : Resolved
Respected Sir,
I am a tortured husband of a lady to whom I married just before 7 months. I am suffering from my wife in every aspect like she wants me to do only like as she wants.Even she
wants me to separate me from my parents of whom I am the only son of my parents and wants all her control over my earnings.As I did not respond her bad acts, she has left me since last 5 months and has began to reside in her parent’s home, instead of living with me at my parent's house. When I requested her to come back to our home, She gave me the following two options on which she would ready to come to our house.
1. She does not want to stay with my parents and wants me to live in a separate accomodation only with her.
or
2. She is ready to live with me and my parents in a joint family only when I jointly share my salary account with her.
She had sent me a legal notice so as to live in a separate accomodation with her with many false allegations to which I sent a reply through legal notice to her proving all her
allegations as false. After my reply notice, she told me on phone that She is ready to live with me and my parents in a joint family only when i jointly share my salary account
with her. I refused her on this.
This cleary shows her cruel mentality and cheating nature.
Latest again I sent a legal notice to her asking her to come to her matrimonial house unconditionally and she is staying at her parents house without any reasonable
cause/reason. She has not sent any reply to that notice and she is staying till today in her parent’s house. Now Since last 2 months, I have stopped phone conversations with
her.
I am totally cheated by her and her parents as they told during marriage discussions that, she is good girl, well co-operative and adjustable girl, and even I informed her
before engagement that, my parents will stay with me to which she and her parents agreed.
Now I am in very disturbed state of mental condition, and due to this disturbed condition I am unable to do my software projects.
Sir, here I once again request you to keenly observe her and her family behaviour and their moral values and the way they are resolving the issues in a very immoral, arrogant
and torturing way. All these things have highly disturbed me mentally.
Kindly also suggest me filing the petition of Divorce by Mutual Consent with reason as Unretrievable Breakdown of Marriage.
Also please provide any other valuable suggestions and help me to come out of this trap. I am not willing to continue my marriage life with her.
Thanking you.
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 11 September 2011
Don't worry. Everything will be sorted out. My best wishes are with you. I am not a lawyer just a reader.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 12 September 2011
It is pity but you have to wait for divorce as the same can not be filed just now as 5 months wait is still there to complete a year
but hardly believe she would be ready to give you clean cheat via mutual divorce if her nature is so as stated by you.
Precautions:1. never agree for any joint account with her at any cost.
2.Raise some loan against property purchase to reduce the burden of maintenance,which may now be claimed by her.
3.plan to show expenditure on parents
maintenance which may go up to 10k per
parent.
Advises: Getting disturbed is no solution to any of problems our destiny put before us.So go cool,plan how to coup,do not curse any thing,do more soft ware work than normally you have been doing,getting depressed is not the answer to a problem,the answer lies in meeting the challenges we are forced to face by any misshapen in life.Meditate,do some breathing exercises and do not have any feeling good or bad about what has happened,be simply a seer and doer with all rationale God has gifted you.
In due course things will change to goodness in your life is my believe.
Thoughts are very powerful,hence we must posses always good thoughts.None have seen the GOD but his existence is realized only by our thoughts,that is why in all geographies POSITIVENESS of THOUGHT has been pleaded.You are a learned technocrat
who can make a soft ware that can keep people always positive,if you are not ready to make one for us at least make it for yourself.
girish shringi
(Expert) 14 September 2011
Very good suggestion by Mr. Singh.
