Planning to save marriage - counselling - t&c - urgent.

No terms & conditions between husband & wife. ONly pure heartly love welcome each other with full confidence in their love. Believeness is more important on each other.

Prima face, if girl is not accusing you of anything in court, then it means, they really want to reconcile, i guess they are sensible for not taking matters too far, once they accuse you of something and file for 498A or domestic violence case out of ego and anger, then the matter reaches to a point of no return

If you sincerely feel that they are willing to extend their hand for compromise, I suggest don't try to take advantage of the situation, they are willing to bend, then you should also show some grace and not make this a ego issue.  Such understanding and maturity are very rare nowadays

There is no contempt of court, if one misbehaves.

You cannot have terms and conditions as this is not a business contract, but if you want to save yourself legally in any future problems (your concerns are right, trust takes a severe beating when matters reaches the court), you can tell them honestly that you just want in writing certain facts "Like you or your family has not taken any dowry during marriage), tell them you are not asking commitment on future behaviour like, wont quarrel, wont pressurise to leave the house, but only what has happened.

if you are being honest, i am sure the other party will appreciate and may give in writing, that can serve as a defence for you in future.

Though the other party can always claim, that they gave that undertaking to continue the marital relation and under pressure.

Experts, Thanks a lot for quick replies ...

Counsellor told me - if she disobeys, it will be contempt of court .

Girl/family are okay with me, as they dont want to leave me as I have {money,education,status}, but they dont like my parents with me, they want me to be part of their family in same town and stay separately near thier house.

Girl/family is type of goons and always talk in the same way.

Please help

Take help of a local lawyer who is well experienced   in matrimonial matters..

There can be no written terms and conditions for resuming the broken married life.  If the elders and others wish to save the sacred institution namely marriage between you and her, better give a chance, may be she will realize her mistake and become alright for ever, however, if you wish, you can put on hold the case for another three months to watch for developments and then withdraw the case as per the circumstances.