Cheating wife or misunderstandings victim....?
Nishit
(Querist) 21 December 2009
This query is : Resolved
Hello Everyone!!!
I married 1yr ago with Love+arranged and registered marriage. Me and my wife had good relationship for first 6months. We were weekend couple as were together living every weekend since marriage, else I was staying alone at my flat and she stayed with her parents at her own flat. As both are working professionals we had small fights also. But since she met her new colleague at her office tour at different location in same company, she is daily in touch with that guy. He is 4yrs younger than her, both talks for hours and sends 50-200 sms to each other daily. She is doing this since after 6months from marriage or since her meet with him. When I objected this she asked me to provide her freedom and understand corporate lifestyle or else leave her. Later on she stopped physical relationship with me (4months back). Then I came to know from her friend that my wife is having affair with that guy and both meet regularly at third place in name of office tour or office work. We don't have any child.
Now current scenario is that:
1) My wife wants divorce on urgent basis with reason that my nature is not understanding & not providing freedom.
2) My in-laws are with my wife's side as they need her salary, they have clearly told me about salary income from her matters to them even after marriage.
3) Everyone from her side denies her affair with her colleague(they call it as good friends only), but I have call/sms details of their early relation time. From which any one can conclude huge flow of call/sms at midnight means affair only.
4) They have threatened me to give urgent divorce and they don't need any money from me else face legal complications or they will suffer me.
5) My wife says that they have filed NC case against me, but I'm not yet enquired by any police nor received any copy of NC from them. (I was heavily depressed when I came to know her contact with colleague so I called her and told that I'm going to harm myself in case you will leave me for that guy, so she filed NC saying her hubby going psycho and can do suicide, this is her narration)
My problem: I'm not ready for divorce and as I know her nature, I know that she will change her mind and soon come to know that she was on wrong path or misguided and took divorce decision in angry mood.
I have met 2-3 local advocates in my case every one says to resolve matter internally or go with mutual divorce. But her family is not at all interested to meet me or my family. In any case I don't want to loose my wife. I think all issue raised due to lack of mutual understanding as weekend couple, which can be resolved by time and not by divorce. And divorce should happen only if they had real affair or physical relations. Also I have not filed any case or complaint against her. We met/stayed together 4months ago, since we have not met.
My questions:
1) Are cruelty(NC case) or non-understanding person proper bases for filing divorce against me? (I know she can file many false allegations on me including dowry)
2) If she files divorce after 1yrs of marriage (which is just completed) how I can come to know about divorce case filed or not? As I don't stay at my residence where marriage took place and was registered.
3) Me and family insisted to family meet to resolve our matter since last 4months but no response from her side. They kept telling that there is no use of meet and wait till completion of 1yrs(for divorce proceeding). Can my wife file case against my family as we followed up with her family for meeting?
4) If my wife has affair with her colleague under name of official work (as per her phone details and confirmation from her friend) Is there any way where I can request court to order retrieval of SMS (actual SMS content) and calls details of both cheating persons? After retrieval of SMS content or call/mobile location or investigation details of both cheaters can court understand my side or punish the culprit?
Please help me here.
Many Thanks in advance...
n.k.sarin
(Expert) 21 December 2009
Mr nishit,you are over sensitive person.the best advice is, in this situation you must go for mutual divorce.don't think from heart,think from mind. It is in your future interest. now on your question, if you made up his mind not give divorce to your wife and want to spoil your future then read carefully :
If she file divorce petition court must inform you.
cruelty is a very good ground for divorce.
you can request the court for retrieval of sms and call details of both.
In this matter court does not punish any body.
Nishit
(Querist) 21 December 2009
Thanks for your reply Sarin Sir..
Yes, though I was perfect man earlier (yeah real compliments from all friends n colleagues in past n present too) before my marriage I've totally broken within and became over sensitive. Cause daily I remember my wife n remember every moment spent with her n mostly cry as she is not with me. I was toughest n most endurable person before but now totally collapsed. Though daily I try to forget her and pray to god to help me in forgetting her. But all is in vain.
1)In case court orders are not received to me as my current address is not with my wife, will my divorce case hearing done one-sided by court in my wife favor? How should I keep an eye for court order? I've already informed my marriage registered residence's new/current tenants, but they seemed least bothered for same.
2) NC case told by my wife may be a lie to prevent me from resolving our issue, so is there any way where I can confirm weather they had filed any NC against me? Cause I think if no NC was filed then she should find many obstacles in filing divorce.
prakash vathore
(Expert) 22 December 2009
i think u got the best reply from mr. sarin.
